If I can handle all my dysphoria and medical stuff on my own, and if I know my family will freak out, should I bother coming out? Can I just live my life in a way that makes me happy, and just deal with the discomfort of being misgendered at holidays? Is NOT coming out a viable option, if I can be okay with one foot in the closet? Or is it deceitful?
I think its worth the trouble with the right timing it could completely change their outlook and would relieve yourself of the pressure.