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Any help on how to ease my MtF dysphoria

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by FootballFan101, Aug 30, 2015.

  1. FootballFan101

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    As the title says I'm looking for help to ease my MtF dysphoiria a bit (but secretly):help:
     
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    What i do is:
    -shave my face nice and clean
    -shave the hair growing on my hands down to my wrists
    -wear chap stick (the act of applying it helps for some reason)
    And that's all I could come up with, I hope I helped >.<
    Stay strong, princess (*hug*)
     
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    :slight_smile: thank you luckily for me I dont have much hair apart from my head ill see if I have any chapmstick and if I do ill defo use it (I got a nice feeling on that last sentence, first time being referenced too as a girl)
     
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    Aww (': yay n_n! <3
     
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    yay!
     
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    I try to force myself to think about other things, since that is all I can really do; good luck to you.
     
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    Thanks good luck to you too
     
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    Paint your toes? Or use clear stuff for your hands?
     
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    My sister and mum would notice the nail polish going down my sister might acuse my mum my mum would obviously be confused and argue back
     
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    Ahh, sorry I couldn't be more help.
     
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    Nah its ok
     
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    Keep your face clean shaven. (I sometimes shave 2 or 3 times a day, but usually once is good enough) Also, tucking can help, even if you are stuck presenting as male. At first, that feels weird and uncomfortable, but you get used to it.
    Also, depending on how secret you are looking for, generally, nobody knows what kind of underwear you are wearing. Though, if you are afraid of your immediate family finding out, that might not work.
     
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    Can tucking be held together easily using male underwear buying female underwear wouldbe to risky small town and I couldnt get to the nextntown
     
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    Going to depend on the specific underwear. Briefs are likely to have the best success rate, but it's going to be trickier, as guys underwear is typically designed to allow for movement and dynamic anatomy. Also, there's a big difference in the width of fabric between the legs. Guys underwear typically has 4-6 inches, ladies are more like 2, or 3 tops.
     
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    Wearing a bra and panties underneath regular clothes. Painting your toenails since people don't usually see your feet. Put some sort of hair clip or accessory in. Small things.

    ---------- Post added 31st Aug 2015 at 02:06 PM ----------

    Oh if you play video games be a female character if you already aren't. Helped me before I came out.
     
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    thanks I have some pairs that'll work

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    Thanks but I wouldn't wear a bra I'd be afraid of it unstrapping and falling and people seeing it Oh yeah and the last bit I play videos 60% of my free time I will defiantly use that advice!
     
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    If your only concern with a bra is it coming undone, use a sports bra. I still present male at work, and with a few organizations I'm in, and that's what I usually wear under my shirt. nobody will notice. At most, they'll see the edge of it, and think it's an undershirt.
     
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    Yeah but I'll never be able to get my hands on one till I come out and even if they think its an undershirt I dont think undershirts are allowed in my school (strict uniform policy)