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How to signify which gender I am to friends?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by StaticDragon, Sep 8, 2015.

  1. StaticDragon

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    So, recently I realized I was genderfluid and came out to my friends. However, there's a lot of confusion as to which gender I am in certain periods of time, because my friend might think I'm a guy and my other friend might think I'm a girl. My clothes are practically unisex, and there's not a lot of difference between my guy/girl/agender 'modes'. I'm fine with using him/her/them pronouns, but I'd prefer that they match with what gender I am ATM, and it's confusing if I keep on telling them which gender I am. Help?
     
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    Maybe get a bracelet or necklace with the pronouns you'd prefer on it? Not sure of where to get those though..
     
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    I think telling them is the best, tbh. I have a good friend. They're really great.

    When they are walking in with a dress, heels and makeup, you can guess they are a she that day, but they can still say it or maybe we ask or so. Most of the time we use them (or, well, the Swedish equivalent), as the standard. Then they can say "I'm a she today", and we say that.
    Same thing with if they wear male clothing and act more male, they will say that maybe or so, and we use he as a pronoun.

    Asking your friends to use they as a standard pronoun can be good.
     
    #3 Invidia, Sep 8, 2015
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