Transition Pros for me: 1. Getting to wear women's clothing- like dresses and skirts, whenever I want 2. Feeling more "liberated"- feminine and lady like in everyday situations 3. Slight altering of the body to a more feminine build (softer skin, no facial hair, etc.) Transition Cons for me: 1. Severe and permanent altering of the body (not sure I want to have breasts... sometimes I do but I'm not sure) Definitely not sure I'd want to remove genitalia, but I know this is a decision that comes later. 2. Fear of being rejected by everyone- family, peers, etc. 3. Fear of not being able to find work, and not having the financial resources to complete the transition. 4. Fear of regretting the decision for some reason. After all, I do have my masculine side too, even if it is less dominant than my femme side sometimes.
No one else can make the decision on whether or not to transition for you, but if you have issues with the permanent changes from medical transition, or have such changing feelings that it's not something you want all the time, I would advise you to be cautious about transitioning. It is, of course, a huge change with permanent consequences so you have to be sure that you want that, and can deal with all of the potential effects of transitioning.
Do the pros outweigh the cons. Can you and only you say that. I'm going to have to face that in a year. I've been out to my parents and friends. I've already rang that bell. Can't unring it. And I've rationalized being bigender too long when personally I would have been entirely female with some masculine interests.
Transition form what I've heard is also a process, it doesn't start & end with hormones/surgery. Some trans ppl even choose not to have surgery as just transition as best they can without medical involvement.
Yea. I can live without bottom surgery or even implants. I do want facial feminization surgery though.
You shouldn't feel obligation to transition, for whatever reason, and especially if you feel uneasy about it. There's more to it than hormones and surgery, though they seem to get the most attention. People forget about the small things, like learning to think of yourself differently, or even wearing something you normally wouldn't. It definitely is a lifelong process, even for those who have gone through the hoops. Some people have limitations on what they're able to do, and others wait for the right moment. Start asking yourself what you would like to change, and what's possible.
Maybe so. But how would you wear what you want, like dresses/skirts and still get employment? How would you wear women's clothing without getting punched or harassed (yes, I could pass for a woman, but it would still prove difficult...)
