Not Sure if I'm FtM or Not... Please Help!

You can be feminine and still be FTM, there's lots of feminine cis guys, and the same is true for trans guys.

It does sound like you could be trans, although no one can say for sure besides you. Do you feel uncomfortable being female? You could try to explore these feelings by dressing differently, stuff like that.

 

Hey there

It's okay to have been feminine in the past, it's okay to be feminine even after you find out you're trans! And you're young! I didn't even start questioning my gender until I was 18, and before that I was also very feminine. After all we have been socialised as girls our entire lives so it's not that weird. It doesn't make you less trans, or less of a man. Take some time to think about all this, you don't have to hurry through anything. I don't know how things works over there in the states, but I'd suggest talking to the school counsellor if they're lgbtq-friendly and maybe they could also help you find a gender therapist?

If you have money and can order stuff online I'd recommend you buy a binder, the ones from gc2b are really good. It's much better for your body than triple sports bras, bandages etc.

Oh, and I read fanfiction too, nothing to be ashamed of.

Take care. =)

 

Hi there! I almost had the exact same feelings you did when I questioned my gender. Don't worry; being FtM doesn't mean that you have to be *corny deep voice* manly. I'm a wussy, emotional, feminine, romantic gentlemanly something else, but that doesn't make me any less of a boy x3

And don't worry; doubt? Is normal. Announcing yourself as trangender can be a DAUNTING prospect. Just trust yourself, and I know that sounds silly, but it's truly what you need to do.

It does sound like you are trans, but of course I cannot tell you for sure; only you can do that

And hey, experiment. There's no rush; take your time and think about it. Maybe cut your hair, get a binder. You don't need to start on T or have surgery right away; so just ease yourself into it, okay?

If you need any other advice, feel free to message me ^^

-Alex

 

Hey, I second everything everybody said. The question you should ask isn't: "Do I like girl/boy things?" Those things change and are heavily culturally influenced anyway. You know, when you read about trans people, you will hear a lot of stuff like: "I never liked to play with dolls even when I was little". While that might give you a clue, it doesn't define who you are genderwise. If some cis boys can like makeup and stuff, why shouldn't trans boys?

For me, at some point I just realized I didn't want people do see me as either a man or a woman, no matter how I looked or behaved. What do you want people to see you as, and who do you want to be?

Oh, and don't worry too much about how you felt in the past. Gender can change. I think it did for me. That doesn't mean it's less real.

GenderSciFi

 

I'm thirteen as well, and struggled alot with finding out whether or not I am FtM. I am very feminine too, but, as the others have said, it is perfectly fine! Femininity is great, cis or trans

 

When I was like 4 or 5, my favorite color was pink and I liked all things pink and ALL my clothes were pink. The only reason I ever felt uncomfortable with it was because i saw other boys and thought to myself that boys shouldn't do that. Your gender identity is not your gender expression or interest. Even though I don't dress as femininely today, I still love "cute" things and crafts. I also love sparkly things. Getting into pop-punk bands helped me in a sense that it allowed me to disregard gender roles and tell me that it's perfectly ok to be a feminine guy.
When you bind, do make sure that it doesn't constrict your breathing. Your body can tell you a lot of things, listen to it.
Also, I read fanfiction A LOT. like, a lot a lot. if you read bandom slash fics feel free to chat on my wall or something. But one of the greatest things about fanfics is that I've read some fics where a character is headcanoned as trans and they really helped me feel less dysphoric. (anyone who likes FOB or MCR should message me, i'd love to talk about them)

 

You might just be a feminine guy. No shame in that. Not all guys are big, stereotypical macho men.