Two of my friends asked me today about my genitals. I just froze, eventually my best friend stepped in. What should I have done? I wasn't expecting it at all, I had no reply.
Haha, it's none of their business right? Imagine how you would act if somebony asked them about what is in their pants?! I think I would have sarcastically asked if they wanted me to drop trou right there so they could look. But if they asked I would tell hem that it's extremely inappropriate and none of anyone's business what your junk looks like. because that's what they are really asking; what do you LOOK like. Because what they ARE is genitals. Everyone has different ones. And yours don't preclude you to sexual harassment Just because they aren't common among women. what did your friends say?
They were being rude and disrespectful. And yep, it's sexual harassment. It's their fault, not yours. There's a few options for how to handle this: 1. Simply state that it's rude and that they wouldn't of liked it if you asked about theirs 2. ask why or say idk 3. sass or embarrass them, these are ideas people from my support group thought of a. if they ask the exact "what's in your pants?" say something like "98% cotton 2% spandex" or some variation of that b. "most people buy me a drink before asking that..." feel free to add more ideas
I really do want to impress the fact that it IS actually sexual harassment. It is kinda a really big deal. So don't feel like you are beholden to their question. You don't have to answer unless you want to. It's purely a matter of consent. If a stranger came up and cat called and told you all about the disgusting things they would do to you in bed it would be the same type of thing as someone inquiring about your sexy-bits. Just don't feel like they deserve to know. They broke a rule even asking. At that point in time all that should be coming out of your mouth is a request for their apology, haha. Unless you want them to know of course.
Hey! There yah go! See? And if you tell them it's sexual harassment it could even toss them off balance for a moment and make them uncomfortable with objectifying you in a sexual way.
