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Is this kind of dysphoria odd?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by JaggedPrism, Oct 18, 2015.

  1. JaggedPrism

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    I expected dysphoria along the lines of my body not matching the gender I felt. And while it is there to some extent, it's much much less than I expected so long as I have my packer. What I'm having instead is terrible self-esteem and body image issues that I don't have the right body type to look like the male I visualize myself as. I'm too short and have too much of a gut, etc.

    I feel bad complaining about this when all in all my realizations of being genderfluid have been smooth and pleasant. I feel like I should be happy with what I've got rather than whining about this one issue. But it upsets me and I feel incredibly ugly and dumpy.

    Am I unusual in this? Does anyone have any advice? Should I just suck it up and get over it?:icon_sad:
     
  2. Invidia

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    I can get like that too... Including with the weight thing, where I feel like I'm too big when I'm really slightly above underweight...
    Thinking about it can work for me. Thinking about the evidence against it and for that I am really not big at all... It can help. To think about it in a more rational (though not wishful) way like that can help.
     
  3. Matto_Corvo

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    I think its common among trans folk
     
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    It's common, I'm a fairly stocky "male" physically, and am somewhat overweight; and that does weigh me down sometimes.
     
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    Yeah, from my understanding, what you're experiencing isn't unusual.
     
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    It's normal feelings considering the battle we all face everyday trying to be that image of what beauty is, thanks to brainwashing loons in the media.
     
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    Yeah this is common. I generally like how I look but I hate how I sound, my weight's a problem, and my face is too round.