So I came out to my parents not too long ago. Maybe three weeks ago. They accept me, and they won't try to shove god shit down my throat like I though, but, they are basically locking me in the closet. I'm not allowed to talk about it, write down my feelings in a journal (they check everything... They always think I'm looking at porn or something) or even get my hair cut short (which my mother promised me BEFORE I came out to her). Hell, she's still trying to shove me in dresses for picture day! I've told them that it makes me feel uncomfturble, but they're like "Oh well, deal with it." I can only talk to them about it (which is uncomfturble as hell because they argue almost every point I make) and I even had a god damn mental breakdown last night! They promised that they'd take me to a proffesional, yet they haven't even said anything about it since I told them! What should I do? :help::bang:
Write a letter. Actually, let me get back to you on that. My therapist advised me to write a letter to my parents, which I'm planning on. Also they gave me this great format to follow. I'll post you that when I get my hands on it. Letters are magic. Ask any therapist. It can be the best way for awkward communication.
Okay, here you are. 6 point strategy for awkward topic letters: 1.) Start with an image of a time when things were good. 2.) Write, here is what I’m feeling. Ex.) sad, lonely, frustrated, nervous… 3.) Write, here is what I think the problem is… 4.) Write, here is what I’m afraid of….. 5.) Write, here is what I hope will happen next. 6.) Return to the image of when things were good. Hope this helps you!
If I were you I'd just talk to a friend about it, and ask them if they can help you out... I know I just posted a comment about being yourself, but in this situation I wouldn't be. They clearly think that you can just hide it and they're probably trying to enforce the female look upon you, so no one reacts to how you dress... If I were you I'd just ask a friend if I could have items shipped to their house, such as binders, clothes, and either a hat or a wig (since you aren't allowed to cut your hair). Human hair wigs can be expensive, but ebay and such other websites have them under 15 dollars sometimes... After getting the supplies I'd just ask my friend if I could get ready at his place and have us go out or something some evening to a park or library or something... Idk what cities have... If your parents question why you're always hanging out with him, you can always say a school project... or that your dating or something... Idk about that last one, but they're your parents, so you should know which excuses will work... I wish you luck... And hey, if you do what I said, then will luck you might have enough support eventually to have your parents support you... This might just be me, since I was a teacher's pet, but teachers can be good to talk to about some of this stuff. You don't need to say specifics, but I always found teachers to be more like family than my actual family... It was great talking with them, if I had no one else... In my experience they won't force advice onto you, but if you need it they will give it... usually. I hope this helps.
