Hi, I've recently come out as lesbian, then realized that I'm genderfluid. I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to explain genderfluidity and names. I've been using two different names from my original female name. One is a male name and the other is just the male name with a "y" at the end to be more feminine. Is there a way to make this less confusing and complicated to people? My genderfluidity is that I identify as both a boy and girl but at different times and usually both. Yeah, explanations are not my strongest. Any suggestions would be helpful, thanks!
Hello, My suggestion would either be to choose a name that's always unisex or choose two names that are completely different - that way people can easily define between your female self and your male self. Maybe you could also ask whether it is or isn't confusing for other people? Ask the people who accept you so you know they're answering just on the name, and maybe ask their advice as well.
You could try and find a unisex (neutral) name you like, it might be less confusing for the people around you to just call you by one name. If you do end up going with two names, maybe get a couple bracelets or something, one blue one pink for whatever gender you're feeling that day so you don't have to tell people, or they don't have to ask. Also, have you thought of going by your first and middle initial? Initials are pretty neutral, and shouldn't be too hard for people to get used to. Good luck.
