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Body dysphoria vs body dysmorphia??? What are your thoughts?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by noname8387, Nov 5, 2015.

  1. noname8387

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    What are your thoughts about this subject?

    Yesterday I was watching a MtF youtuber's video about how "Nobody is born in the body they were supposed to". In it she says that even though that gender dysphoria is a real thing, we are all born with flaws and things we would like were a little different, but we learn to accept most of those things.

    I am having a little trouble figuring out if I am just unsatisfied with my body and expression:

    I identify as a man but I am more unsatisfied/self conscious with my body since I started questioning, I have really round features. When I'm not questioning I wish I was taller, had a sharper jaw and chin, fuller beard (not wear, just the stub), less fat and a broader back. I don't know if I'm too hard on myself and think I'm not a man enough because I am too feminine and at the same time don't have the ideal male physique (but 90% of men don't have it and I still think they are men).

    But even if I am settled right now as a man I still feel a little envy to women's bodies and expression. The female aesthetic is something that I still admire but not being woman as a whole. They look good enough to make me question a little, but I no longer get anxiety because I am a little bit more confident with both my male and female sides. When I see a fierce woman I feel happy and like I want to be like that, but I don't know if it's more because I envy the confidence in their own bodies which I don't have.

    But when I look at dapper man or go to the gym I'm like "YAAAAAASSSS" I feel more euphoria when I identify as a man though I still feel somewhat happy when I identify with strong beautiful women so that's what is confusing. There are more women than men who I identify with, so that also adds to the confusion. I have this thought on the back of my head that the male body and the things I like as a man are just things I would like on my partner and I'm just misinterpreting but I don't believe that's the case.

    Do you think this is body and confidence issues or gender issues?

    How do I know if I want a male body or want just to be with a male body (and slightly in denial or oblivious)???

    Do you think that if I work out more my slight envy will reduce because I will be more comfortable in my own skin? Sometimes I feel like I'm a little too obsessed with women for a gay guy.

    How do you do to love your body? Thank you all for your wonderful points of view!!!
     
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