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I Don't Know What I Can Be

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Snidi, Dec 29, 2015.

  1. Snidi

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    Gender:
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    Sexual Orientation:
    Straight
    Biologically male, 25 years old.

    One day I wake up fairly masculine, and feeling normal. I'm a dude, and I want to kick butt and be awesome. All is fairly normal.

    The next day, I wake up as a sweet young lady. In my mind. I wish I can wear a dress and prance around the streets. Only...I can't. We all know what happens when a guy does that.

    Thus, the dilemma. My gender identity is duel, but society won't allow me to be both :/.
     
  2. Kodo

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    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
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    Out to everyone
    There is such a thing as bigender, as well as genderfluid. While yes, it is true that society is very begrudging toward non-bindary identities, don't give up all hope for yourself.

    If you feel this is a pivotal thing that needs to be communicated, work on making a plan to do so. There are people who will accept you, and there are things that can be done to make you feel more genuine and comfortable.

    I find it both fascinating and valuable for one to be bigender. It's a unique experience and has a beautiful duality, I think, though I'm not bigender myself. Is there anything you can do to feel freer as your female side?