I know that LOOKING male is only half of passing so could anyone help me with mannerisms? I know guys sit with their legs spread more than girls and I know guys swagger when they walk. I know they stand with hands in their pockets but what other mannerisms are important when trying to pass as a guy?
Screaming like an idiot when a team makes a point or somebody makes something stupid. Saying bro and dude a lot. I can't really think of other male mannerisms, I think it more about the lack there of. Also I just realised that there aren't many because they don't care a lot about how they do things, they just do it. And I would suggest you to do that instead of being self conscious all the time with can be overwhelming.
The only thing I would advice against is gesturing only with your hands. Most of the time guys tend to use their whole forearm while doing that. Try not to be too self conscious. Confidence is key. Once you pass, no one is gonna be like "Wow, you move your arms so much, you must be trans." I never really had to change much once I started transitioning, those things come all very naturally. The only thing I do is walking everywhere like I own the whole city. :icon_wink
This right here in bold. Own it and be yourself. When you exude confidence in yourself and are comfortable with yourself then no one questions you. I just walk into the women's room or the changing room like I own the place.
I don't know why I find some of the answers offensive, ibreally don't. I mean, for every answer given I can't think of a single guy in my life who acts 100% like that, though I do know some women like that. Been to parties where both boys and girls cheer like idots. At the same time I know guys who hate sports and rather crack open a good boy. I know guys who gesture only with their hands, try not to take up to much space on public transportation because they are respectful, and I know several who don't act confidence. Maybe its because I don't believe there is any mannerism that is 100% masculine or feminine. Just be you really. If you try to force yourself to use 'masculine' mannerisms that you aren't comfortable with then you'll just make yourself feel down. Instead just own the mannerisms you are comfortable with.
Men are confident and stereotypically more aggressive. There are different factors to mannerisms, being body language and speech. Let me break it down for you, and this is just based on personal experience... Speech: -Typically more curt -Less emotional intonation -Supposedly ends on a 'low note' as opposed to a 'high note' (talking about pitch) Body Language: -Less hand and wrist flapping, use the whole arm and avoid copious gesturing. Though this is general advice for anyone. -Watch your hips. Don't stand with a hip-tilt, or with your hands on your hip(s). When you carry things, do it with your arms and shoulders without resting them on your hips (such as when/if you carry a baby... watch how men as opposed to women do it). -When you sit, usually you sit with legs spread. Again, confidence is key. Even if you have no confidence, pretend to. Last but not least, I always say that being a gentleman is by far better than forcing 'masculinity' by adhering to stereotypes. It also helps to observe men and watch their mannerisms. If you aren't around a lot of guys in real life, you can always watch male celebrities that you admire.
so funny, because so many gay (and contrary to the stereotype, straight as well) guys violate the "masculine mannerisms". I can tell you one thing, trying to inhibit your own mannerisms can be a growing pain in the neck. I mean, I tried that and all I developed was dysphoria. It is simply a stress inducing factor, to try and change your reflexive mannerisms. Yeah, you can change some, but if so, don't look at masculine stereotypes. IF you want to achieve something specific, watch or read guides on body language and non verbal communication, aimed at men. If you want to radiate, say, confidence, learn that from those sources. Don't go by stereotypes, because real life cis men vary a lot and their body languages send various messages. So, if you want to convey specific attitude, learn from those who teach men how to do so. And there is really everything covered, how to walk, talk, gesture... I mean, politicians train themselves in that, you surely can, too. But, is it worth it? Certainly, if you want to achieve something. Is it going to make you more you? Not really. However, it is certainly a neat thing to know how to present yourself so that others respect you.
I wouldn't advise overdoing the whole swagger and hands in pocket thing. I've seen plenty of masculine lesbians do this, and it can seem ridiculous, like they're trying to hard. In general, men are a lot more... robotic? Less "smooth" and "fluid" motions, with more direct ones. When walking, try not to keep your feet and legs too close together. Head high, chest forward. Guys are always sizing each other up, even subconsciously, so learn how to give firm handshakes, while you're at it. It might be best to watch what others do, while finding a spot that feels comfortable for you. Practice! Ask for feedback! Not every guy has the same mannerisms, but they know more-or-less what's acceptable or not. Some struggle, while others excel in it. Really just depends on you.
It depends what kind of dude you're going for. Examples (Keep in mind, this is all generalizing, and absolutely does not apply to every guy in the category, or every guy in general): Bodybuilders: Better posture, finger crushing handshake, lot of showing off, trying to make themselves seem large. Nerdy types: Bit more slouching, still a firm handshake, but not trying to destroy your hands, more quiet, subdued, don't really care if anyone notices them. So it depends on your personality, more than anything. Generally yes, try to show off if there is another guy around, especially if he's cute, or makes you feel threatened. Do stupid shit for no reason other than to show off how "tough" you are. Feats of strength are still prevalent. Right? I think...
I am a cis guy so i dont know what you guys feel when transitioning, but all men had somehow a time of their life (generally after puberty) where they try to look like guys they admire. So my advice is to find a guy you respect and admire and get inspired by him.