Over the past two years I have done a lot of reflecting and ruminating over this idea of transitioning. I really feel a pressing need to become my true self but don't know how to do so and keep the safety and security I've built up for myself and my son. I have a job as a teacher. Already on my own time I can dress how I please. I feel dysphoria slightly by presenting feminine at work but it's like I can snap and stay in an alternate persona with mostly no issues. As soon as I get off and become myself again though I feel dysphoria frequently. Would it be so bad to cut my hair short and wear a wig to work? I'm flat chested so I feel I could probably even pull off top surgery with no one knowing. Hormones would be off the table unless I found a different job. Advice?
Do you need to have long hair to keep the job? If not just get a haircut that could still be considered feminine. Or get a haircut every month or so and gradually take off a few centimeters.
