Am I transgender? I'm born a female, and I'm 17 now. All my life I hated to doll myself up, never played with barbie or girly toys and always preferred cars or nerf. I guess I identify myself as bisexual as I don't mind having sex with guys. So far I didn't have any crush on a guy before (just find some cute) but I've had a major crush on a girl before, but never imagining having sex with one. Whenever I see my female friends dolling themselves and playing with makeup, I felt depressed, as I'm not pretty myself, and I always have a boyish personality, so I would get made fun of if I play with make up. If given a choice, I would much rather dress in boy's clothes. I felt like it is so much easier to dress up as a guy, like a shirt and pants will do. I have a long hair, but its always up in a ponytail. I thought of cutting my hair to a boy haircut, but I am really afraid of the stares and the judging by other people.. Right now I don't know what to do.. On a side note, I haven't come out of the closet yet. Plus I know my parents aren't accepting. I'm really at a loss. Also if you have any experiences for a first FTM haircut? Please share if you don't mind!
No. Gender roles have nothing to do with being trans, and those sound like the only things you have an issue with. You can be a girl who likes masculine things.
I hesitate to say you are just a tomboy. You are you. If that's a woman who has masculine taste in how they dress and would prefer short hair, that's fine. Honestly, there are a lot of women who rock that style, and do it well. I wouldn't let gender norms decide your identity.
Let yourself be yourself - you do you, darling! You sound like a tomboy to me. Maybe try some things out. Like, if you're afraid of stares, maybe you can have a short haircut, like shoulder-length or something.
You are just not comfortable with traditional gender roles, you do not seem to be trans. Just ignore gender roles and be yourself.
I'm a scientist by training and seriously, most of the women I know, myself included, are fairly tomboyish. We didn't play with dolls, preferred cars and trousers. I remember being given the option of knitting or building a chicken shed at primary school. I was the only girl who chose to build the chicken shed, with all the boys. At secondary I was sometimes the only girl in my science classes, and in my career I have been massively outnumbered by men. I do dress up when required, wear make up a few times a year but am more likely to be found in my jeans or yoga kit. On field work out of 50+ women at uni there would be 1 or 2 who put make up on or did their hair. They were the ones seen as a bit odd, not the rest of the women who were in field gear. I am most definitely female. Just do what you like. There are plenty of 'tomboys' out there.
