People who aren't completely out. Do you hate holidays?

It never really bothered me. I always just got gifts that people knew I wanted rather than generalize and give me gifts they assumed I'd appreciate because they saw my gender a specific way.

 

Yes. Mostly because I have to present male to my extended family currently.

Although my mom and dad gave me makeup and a dress for this past Christmas...

 

Holy shit yes. So many make up sets and perfumes...

Most of my relatives don't really know me that well because I'm not that close to them, so I always get very gendered, feminine gifts. Especially for Christmas. My birthday isn't as bad, but Christmas... Geez... Not to mention the constant misgendering and deadnaming.

 

Christmas are worst. I get pink things and women cosmetics. :/

 

Calling me she is entirely foreign to them though...

 

omg, yes!! this year it was with my in-laws (who i adore) but when my wife gives me perfumey soaps and hair accessories in pink and black sparkly colors it's like "um, thanks dear, thanks a bunch!" (uncomfortable stares all around)

lol - i just laugh. what can you do?

 

(i might like a few)

 

Every year I get jewellery of some sort from someone. I never wear jewellery because it only lasts about ten minutes before I take it off. My granny is the worst though; makeup, necklaces, bracelets, skinny jeans and dresses in the past few years. I love her to bits but does she not notice that I never wear any of that stuff? Then I feel bad because people spend money on me and I'd much rather a battered book from a charity shop costing 25c than what they gave me. Honestly most of the clothes I wear are from charity shops!

 

Irish grannies, haha, the most kindest, caring old women in the world

 

Yeah, especially when you get clothes for presents.

Some holidays are alright though. It depends on the holiday I guess.

 

What always bothered me is how hard it was to go to the beach, and then I wouldn't last very long there, or that I had to go when it was quite early in the morning or almost night, and find a desert spot, so I could have a swim... But still it bothered me, obviously.

Birthdays, Xmas and the rest? Not many people knows where I live, and they got tired after me not answering the phone anymore, so thanks god I'm over that. The few ones who I still talk to know what is going on, use my name and don't give me troubles or send me anything.

Yes, I remember how it was as I had to go through what you guys and girls (and agenders) mention, and I had zero connection to such events, and such gifts, they always felt they were for somebody else, and everyone around me was somehow deranged.

 

My parents knows exactly what I want for both Christmas and my birthday - clothes, model railroad accessories (yes, I still into my trains), gift certificates or jewelry.

 

Oh god can I relate. I had Christmas and then a couple weeks later my 18th so the amount of pink cards with 'daughter', 'granddaughter' and everything was so difficult to see. I felt my heart drop every time I saw one and I've always been considered a tomboy and I've never liked pink so I don't know why people were getting me them anyway?! Yeah holidays like that create a lot of anxiety for me and this past birthday was actually a big kick up the ass to start coming out because I realised that I couldn't be dealing with that yearly.

Its the presents from people that barely know you that get to me. The stupid moisturiser and nail polish. When they do know you but can't be bothered to think of anything less generic that you get a 'girl' that's the worst. Im just glad to be coming out now and hopefully by next Christmas/birthday I won't be having any anxiety over presents and cards (we can hope, eh).