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Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Jhon1, Mar 7, 2016.

  1. Jhon1

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    I am gay and when I was younger I would look at all guys and get really horny and think there all hot but now I'm older I don't feel like that anymore Im stil intommen and want a boyfriend and husband but I'm not getting that same feeling anymore?

    Second thing is women have popped into my head I don't like these thoughts and imagies there sexual and I dont get it or like it because I'm not sexually attracted to women and I don't want to be with one and I don't have feelings for them we get along they make me laugh but I don't want to be with one and I don't want these thoughts on how I see guys

    Third thing is I know I'm gay but I never had a realisation I was in just sorta knew but most people have a realisation but I never had that so then I started to question myself and do you need to go on a finding yourself path to know your gay or can I just know.
     
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    I'm sure many people can relate, as accepting one's own sexuality isn't always an "aha!" moment or great epiphany. Sometimes it is more of a "knowing" or gradual realization that you've always been a certain way.

    It is possible you may be gay or leaning bisexual, since you described having sensual thoughts about women (despite not wanting a relationship with one). Though take your time to sort it out, as it's not always so cut and dry.

    As to your first question, one simple reason you may not be so boy crazy nowadays is that, when you were younger (say, adolescence to young adulthood) there were a lot more hormones circulating which resulted in an increased libido. As an adult, you mellow out a bit. That doesn't mean your attraction just vanishes, just that your "hunger" has, if that makes sense.

    Hopefully this helps a bit.
     
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    There is a possibility you are bisexual but there is a survey that shows that some straight people fantasies with same sex and same with gay people
     
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    I dont see myself as bi because I don't like women sexually and I don't want to be with one

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    I think I know why now it's because I'd be so insecure and try and prove to myself I don't like girls that I would look it up and the images would stayin my mind because I look at women in real life and I don't see the attraction to them there all the same I balme porn because it's a sexual stimulant and I've had feelings for guys and my hands get sweety and I with some guys I can't talk to them I would feel awkward around them and I like guys