Gender Expectations

After identifying as an androgyne I resorted back to being female-identified full time. I have been identifying as bigender not so long ago since I switch from female to male and male to female. Pronouns could give me a lot of social distress because they is usually mistaken as always plural and 'Ze' would give me tons of side-eyes and chuckles. I don't know any other transgenders personally, and I would feel I would annoy or baffle folks if I change from he to she then she to he and therefore be subjected to backlash. I have Autism and am trying my best to 'adjust' to the 'sane' world. I know there are gender neutral pronouns that are not baffling to most like it but I would feel too uncomfortable telling them to refer me as such because the pronoun is so jarring to other Westerners. I also think its quite unrealistic for even a few to refer to yourself as se, zir, etc. Particularly in the English-speaking world (where I live). I'd rather be refered to as a 'he' since that's also neutral, but I possibly will be mistaken as a trans woman or a gender variant cis male. If everyone in school knows I am a he, what would some of them do when I happen to be in the ladies' or mens' washrooms? I am planning to come out as bigender after Summer semester begins since the only ones who know are my medical professionals. I feel more relating to gender variant cis men or trans women even though I was born a girl. The butch manifesto doesn't reflect me even as a man. I would still like to grow my hair long, not go topless, and not wear heavy/baggy clothing as a man without having to wear a suit. I don't really like suits regardless of my gender id. Most female-bodied GQs I've seen fit the style that is geared more toward masculinity, or butch lesbian/man, whereas I would gear towards the Prince-like androgyny as a man or woman, and I see a lot of trans women pulling that well, so I guess that is why I relate to them more than the trans men I've seen.