Misgendering yourself

It's something that you consciously choose to change as you move forward with transitioning. Just be aware of it and remind yourself again and again that you are a man not a woman and over time it will become easier to think of yourself as such. (*hug*)

 

I can't help it since my language is thoroughly gendered - nouns, adjectives, and most verbs depending on the tense. Even thinking means misgendering, so it's a bit of a mental exercise to change it. Especially if you're still in the closet to 99% people.

I'd say English speakers are quite fortunate to have just pronouns to worry about, lol. And you actually have gender neutral forms.


The non linguistic aspect of it, "thinking about myself as X" seems to fade along with my confidence becoming stronger (that I want to transition). Still there, I mean, it's like any habit and it's one that is constantly reinforced by daily interactions as a male presenting individual.

 

Yes, this used to happen to me all the time when I first started identifying as trans lol. It still happens sometimes but it's become less and less frequent, it takes some getting used to when you've been referred to as a girl your entire life ^^

 

You're not alone. I frequently misgender myself too, and I agree with the feeling that being a girl is just a role I fulfill and it's one I was good at fulfilling for many years. It's just out of habit. I'm not out to anyone so I still respond to female pronouns and female everything, so it's hard to get used to the conflict there. I agree that it can even be 'comfortable' since I'm so used to it, but it isn't right for me. I misgender myself less now, it's just something that will get better over time. It's normal for this to happen, don't worry.

 

i always misgender myself

 

I used to do this all the time but not too much anymore

 

I haven't done that in a few years now. If only other people could do the same, I still have people who are close to me do it sometimes.

 

Same :eusa_doh:

 

I'm over a year into transition and I still refer to myself as a female sometimes on accident, or when I'm thinking to myself I'll be like, 'you go girl!' even Though I'm male.

 

I know the feel, I misgender myself as well sometimes, but I have to because either my parents misgender me and I have to go along with it or I feel social pressure to identify with my assigned gender to not cause difficulties to people to just to keep social norms