This has been a recurring thought over the past couple of days... I *genuinely* feel bad if I classify myself as being a 'trans female', simply because I've made no "real" steps towards a transition. I feel like I'm actually letting the trans community down, all because I'm still "100% male". Am I wrong for thinking like this? :/
You're not letting anyone down! Some people wait their entire lives, knowing they're trans, without actually transitioning. You can call yourself whatever you want, you won't let ANYONE down!
I consider myself closeted trans just because I feel male inside and want to do something about it. It is really a feeling I think.
Alrighty then, I'm a flying spaghetti monster xD. But in all seriousness, thanks I feel somewhat the same, but female. A few of my friends know about this, and I sorta regret telling them :/
I identify on here and on reddit as a transwoman even though I'm not sure if I am or not (I know I'm not cisgender, but apart from that I'm not sure) and I'm miles away from transitioning, if I do ever transition.
It doesn't make you a bad person to think that. It's something a lot of people struggle with when they're coming to terms with being trans. I've definitely had feelings of guilt or discomfort being called a guy or being called "he" because I don't look like one, and I haven't transitioned physically. It used to feel like I was not male enough to deserve being called a guy. Here's the thing: you're not letting anyone down. Lots of trans women are in the closet and haven't taken steps in their transition. The fact is, you are not 100% male, even if you haven't made any physical or social changes, because someone who is 100% male does not feel female inside. The insides count too, okay? You're allowed to call yourself a trans woman even if you haven't started to transition.
There's always going to be someone out there who thinks you're not "trans enough." Might seem like a nasty reality, but in a way I think that knowledge could help to take some of the pressure off. Since you'll never please everyone, there ain't no sense worrying about it.
