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Thinking about trying out a new name

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Invidia, May 22, 2016.

  1. Invidia

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    Hey, y'all, another name thread. ^^ Right now I've been going by Rebecca on here and to 50% ish of my social circle IRL. I'm thinking now that maybe I would like to try out Arabella, which I had intended to be a middle name, as my first name instead, with Ara (with the pronunciation AIR-a) as a nickname.

    Any opinions? ^^ Also, I'm feeling a bit 'ugh' about switching names again, like it's a bit of a chore... but I want to be sure that I'm properly fond of my new name, and I'm quite attached to the name Ara.
    PS. I'm thinking I want to keep the order of the names (Rebecca Arabella) because I feel they flow well together that way, just change what people call me, so to say.
    PPS. Sorry my writing's terrible, I just got up... XD

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    Oops! I accidentally posted in the wrong section! If a mod could move this to Gender Identity and Expression,I'd be grateful.
     
  2. biAnnika

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    Many people have wishes and regrets about their name, and don't have a good excuse for changing it even once. At the risk of sounding presumptuous, I'd say that with all the heavy decisions that no doubt are part of your life, this is one you might be able to take somewhat lightly?
     
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    At the risk of sounding stupid, I don't exactly understand what you mean. XD But yeah, I do take it pretty lightly, although I do want to have a name that I'm comfortable with etc.
     
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    Names are important. I love the sound of Arabella. I'm not sure if there's anything wrong with switching names from my perspective, although I'm sticking with Jessica because it has always been a nice fit. I also like older names from the Victorian era, other cultures. Favorites of mine are Cassandra, Sarah, Miranda. There's just something about ending on that vowel...
     
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    There's nothing wrong with going by your middle name if you keep the order Rebecca Arabella. I was talking to my mum about legally changing my name soon and she still calls me a gender neutral nickname that is part of my new middle name. Just say it's a nickname you prefer; it's still part of your name, so no one should question it.

    I like Ara. It's a lovely name.
     
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    @Jessica Yes, A is number one, literally. ^°^
    @C.J. Thanks, I like it too. :slight_smile: I'm thinking maybe I want to try it out soon. :slight_smile:
     
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    Sure thing, Ara. Beautiful choice by the way.

    Don't sweat it though. I changed my name almost a dozen times through the past year here on EC before settling on Alec. I like your choice though and would be happy to support you in whatever name you are most comfortable with.
     
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    Thanks, Alec. :slight_smile: xoxo
     
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    Usually the first guess is right. Just saying.
     
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    First guess?
    My first choice wasn't technically speaking my own; I just chose what my mom would have named me.
     
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    Ara is pretty but I kinda prefer names that sound more natural. Especially if you ever wanna be stealth. Rebecca is going to set off less alarms. I also chose the name that my mom would've given me and that makes it feel right to me.
     
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    Well your first choice that is.

    Guess I'm lucky with my name being gender neutral.
     
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    My first choice was Henry. I picked it when I was thirteen and kept it till I was seventeen. When I told my dad a few months ago, he said I wasn't allowed to be Henry. Given my last name, I agree, but I miss it. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    @Ricky I don't really care about alarms - if I wanted to be called Pokégirl I'd ask for that, lol.
     
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    It's really pretty and I think it suits you!
    As for changing names (again, in a way), don't worry about it. It'll feel ugh both for you and your friends in the start, but just explain the truth to them. I mean how would they feel if they had to use a name they didn't feel right? Better change it now ^_^
    After a while you'll get used to it and hopefully it'll feel great!
     
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    Thanks, Riz. :slight_smile: