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How to feel valid again

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by anthracite, Jun 10, 2016.

  1. anthracite

    anthracite Guest

    Sometimes it just happens that I feel like I am not and will never be a real man. Too often called by my birth name...or belittled as "the weak girl". I hate this feeling. So my intention with this thread is to collect ways to make this feeling go away.

    I found so far:
    - training
    - playing video games (especially shooters)
    - loud rock and metal and singing along (works because my voice is naturally deep ^^)
    - simulating facial hair with mascara (I look really good with it ^^)
     
  2. jaska

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    Out to everyone
    Allocate a specific set time that you just focus on yourself and do whatever you want to do and don't have to talk or think about anyone else. This is what I do a lot when I don't feel like myself because of all the outside forces. It mostly involves playing and listening to music and drawing. Sometimes I'll have a movie night with some really close friends who I can be my self with and I can just relax around. So taking away any stress or any possible situations or people that make you anxious or unsettled is a good idea. Just look after yourself, remember, its your journey and you have complete control over whatever you want to do, so own it.
     
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  3. Pistachio

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    Some people
    Sometimes lifting weights or running makes me feel a bit better :slight_smile:
    <3
    (Also haha "transgentleman" I love that!!)