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Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Jhon1, Aug 2, 2016.

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    So hey have known I as gay for the past 5 years and I'm panacing about turning straight I don't want to give always been happy liking guys but I have intrusive thoughts and they have me scared and panacing about straight to be honest I pick at the thoughts please help I just don't feel like my old self.
     
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    Why don't you feel like yourself? You shouldn't be scared about being gay, it's completely natural.
     
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    its not the fact that im gay its the fact im having these thoughts about women and i feel like the way i feel for men are changing and i dont want this to happen i known i was gay from 12 and im 17 now and i have been happy but these thoughts of girls i dont want this to cahnge the way i feel for guys and i feel like they are
     
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    What thoughts about women are you having? Sexual attraction? Romantic feelings? About someone you know?
     
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    random thoughts and there sexual and i font like them
     
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    Why do you hate having sexual thoughts about women?
     
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    well i have intrusive thoughts and anxiety people tell me

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    i dont want these thoughts i dont want sex with a woman i dont see myself with one. like the littleest thought about anything i will panic about it and pick at the thought non stop and it stresses me out
     
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    Even if you have sexual thoughts about women, why does that matter? If you like guys, then you like guys. No one is going to force you to go out with a girl. Right?
     
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    True but I'm stressing like dose this mean I'm not gay anymore and do ie ant to fuck women I don't to be honest I think these thoughts have been brought on watching straight porn because I like guys and I ant to be with one I just don't see myself with anyone else other than a guy and I don't see myself having sex with a girl it's just not me
     
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    Well, porn isn't you. In other words the porn you watch doesn't decide who you are. Maybe you thought a woman in a porn was attractive. That doesn't mean you have to date one, have sex with one, etc.

    Maybe try not watching straight porn?
     
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    True I should lol so im still gay despite these thoughts and I'm going to stay gay no matter what?
     
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    Well, I don't have any control over you being gay, so I can't say who you are, but if you are attracted to guys then you are attracted to guys.