Hello! I'm new here, and felt I should introduce myself before I make myself at home. So, I'm a trans guy who's been out to my parents for nearly a year now. Things went over absolutely horrible when everyone first found out, and have developed trust issues since. After I saw someone else do it with so much confidence, I mustered up the courage to tell my friends, after knowing them for a bit over 6 months. They accepted me as I was, and have been working towards feeling better about myself. My mom immediately thought I should be "fixed" and took me to a psychologist. She's certainly helped, but there are still plenty of giant challenges I have to overcome on my own. For example, social transitioning. I've gotten my friends to call me by a different name and pronouns, but I'd like if more people could. Problems with this: - I have extreme anxiety, and will likely have a breakdown just trying to tell someone else. - My parents are out of the question. So is the rest of my family. - I feel as though this will only distance myself further from my parents, and I don't want to do that. I think I've disappointed them enough, and don't want to add this to their list. Any advice you could give me is greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance, and cheers!
I have a similar situation. Try lowering your levels of anxiety so that coming out is easier, you could also bring a friend ( when you come out ).
I also have suuuper bad social anxiety so coming out to people irl has been a huge issue to me as well. My favorite work-arounds have been: -Getting friends/my wife to tell people for me -Posting in facebook groups (ex. to my coworkers) -Sending text messages (or, having someone write a text message for me and sending it from my phone) -Writing letters/bullet pointed lists of what to say or points to make so it's easy to just read off of word-for-word aand those are just the ones i use frequently. I've been out for going on 8 years and have never come out to anyone face-to-face aside from my mother. Been workin' pretty well on my end at least
