So hi, new person here. So I've been trying to just be one gender for awhile, I end up projecting when I switch though and I'm wondering if I should just be the other side for awhile or try to find a balance. I've been living with this for most of my life and I still haven't really figured it out
curious about this turn of phrase as well. I identify, at present, as Bi Gender (M/F) as well, so im not sure what you mean.
It just means that I kind of "mentally throw an image of the other gender onto myself" instead of actually changing my appearance. Like pretending to be someone else
oh, ok. I had a different impression of the word 'projection' and I do know what you're talking about now, I think. I 'see' myself differently when I feel feminine than I do when I feel masculine. I don't see it as pretending per say, as much as if I were showing a different facet of the 'jewel'? kind of like the saying a person has 3 hearts, the one they show the world, the one they show themselves and the one they keep hidden from all.
Basically this. And I don't really change my expression either, most of the time I present somewhat androgynously.
can you do it in your alone time? even at night, if you have privacy you can wear a night gown for instance. or paint your toe nails if you're not someone to go about with bare feet.... little things can really help, I have found.
I try and find a balance for the most part. I lean more toward Transfeminine though. I experience phantom sensations of breasts, I wear breast forms that help when I'm at home, but they are always present. I own a few pairs of heels and wedges and I sometimes dress as a woman and go out. Mostly though, I am male to everyone but a few people. You can wear panties instead of male underwear or female jeans or pants, but you'll have to learn how to tuck yourself because they don't allow room for your penis and balls. You can get your ears pierced and wear dangling earnings when you feel female. Hope this helps.
