Ooookay so my mom randomly surprised me and said she'd take me to a doctor to (slowly) start discussing my transition - which was really weird because she was so against it before and like it caught me off guard and I dunno. But anyways. I need help! So this doctor is nothing special really gender-wise, he's just our family doctor, a G.P. He's also the one who birthed me and my sister, he's been our family doctor for years. I have no idea really what to even say to him, how much he knows about us trans people, what to expect, etc. Will this even lead anywhere or should I look at talking to someone else? What sort of things should I say to him? I guess something else I'm kind of worried about is well, I looked him up online since, despite him being our family doctor, I've never really had to meet him in my life. And all the older reviews are good - really good in fact. But it looks like in the last few years he's been getting worse or something. There was one review where the reviewer said their dad was seeing my family doctor, and he dismissed a bunch of symptoms that the dad was having, saying that he needed to "suck it up and stop complaining." Later on the dad went to another doctor and they found out he had a tumour in his brain.. I mean, I'm not sure if those reviews are even accurate or if they should be followed or what, I'm just worried that he might just tell me it's nothing and that I should just deal with it. Or something. I honestly have no clue what to expect. Like I said, he's a G.P. too and I don't think he has much of any experience or anything of gender. Does anyone have some advice? Where did you start with transition, who did you talk to first? What sort of things did you discuss?
Just understand that many GPs don't have any experience with gender, and some have very little. And some may even have transphobic tendencies. It probably won't hurt to talk to him, but if he makes you uncomfortable you should try to talk to someone else.
Be prepared to tell your GP what being trans means and what transitioning entails, just in case. You'll probably be asked questions about your mental state, as well as how long you have "felt" trans. I know that the medical process is different up there than here in the states, so I personally can't tell you how that works, but Chase Ross, who's from Ontario (I think), has things about transitioning in Canada on his YouTube channel. My family's PCP, who my parents have been seeing for a couple decades, is the same on how he's been getting worse in recent years. Both my mom and I switched doctors because of this. But you should probably be sent to some kind of specialist, so you might not have to worry too much about your GP. Good luck! I hope things go well.
I think Chase is from Quebec actually. But yeah he talks a lot about how medical professionals don't know enough about trans issues and he has many unpleasant stories about his experience with medical professionals. I personally would not go to a doctor unless I knew they were trans friendly, but you might have limited choices if you are under your parents' care still.
Thanks for the responses all, I'm kinda like really nervous about this and feel like I might miss some sleep tonight :icon_conf I think I'll just go see him but kinda.. be wary I guess? If he seems he doesn't want to cooperate or at least try to listen and learn I'll probably just walk out. Really I'm just nervous like what if he asks me something that I don't know how to answer? Then he thinks I'm like lying or something? I know that's ridiculous but I just keep thinking about that. Anyways yeah it's tomorrow soooooo, I guess wish me luck? Ahah :icon_redf
Well, as usual, I got all worked up for nothing. He was really open and listened to what I had to say, he explained to me that he wasn't very knowledgeable about the subject but that he'd look into finding someone to refer me to. And also mentioned that at my age it would be hard to do anything at this age and that it might be better to wait a bit until I'm a legal adult. None of the stuff I was freaking out over ahah. Again thanks for all the responses
