Did others know you were trans before you did?

This has happened to me.

My sister outright asked me if I was trans before I even considered it.
My mother has expressed concern about me wanting to take testosterone before I even considered the fact that I might want to take it.
My friends have noticed and repeatedly assured me for years that they wouldn't care if I was trans/genderqueer.
My brother has been dropping hints for a long time asking if I would prefer "male" things and roles.

I apparently was acting so off that (trigger/sensitivity warning I guess?) some people thought I was either trans or a rape survivor (bad I know, but people have outright asked me this...) with how I acted about my body... Not wanting to be touched, exposed, looked at, or commented on. Even my doctor.

 

I think they had that "we always knew" suspicion about me, so I guess so

 

Hell no.

The last thing my family would ever do is assume that one if their members "chose to be" LGBT. Like choosing to be depressed or autistic, it doesn't happen to proper Christians.

 

I was told I'm trans. Almost. I made people talk about third gender and butch lesbians, I was assumed to be a lesbian - or a girly looking dude. But that's just in college.

My parents weren't that surpried either, if I have to be honest.

 

No one suspected before hand.
Or more specifically, my started suspecting only after I had accepted I was trans and cut my hair. So when I told her she was like "I suspected as much because you started looking so much like a boy lately."
But then my mom is one of those people who wants to pretend they knew something before they actually did.

The rest of my family never say it coming and my brother still refuses to believe it because I am "too feminine to be a dude."

 

No...

 

My mom has been asking me for years if I "want to be a man" or similar wording. This used to make me very flustered.

 

I'd highly doubt it.

 

Yep! Though my father just thought I was gay (and still thinks that), my friends knew I was pretty fem but not many ever mentioned it (A few people later did say it made a lot of sense and they were happy for me, ever people I never expected that from, though some were taken by surprise). In highschool this girl thought I might be gay (She was attracted to me but I was completely oblivious and not interested), I think it was just generally assumed that I had 'something' going on. I downplayed myself and tendencies a lot but otherwise I imagine people just assumed I was bi or gay or trans or weird.

EDIT: I sort of misread the title, ever since I was born something was up with me so I knew, but it was a lot of denial or inability to fully recognize it, and with that a lot of concealment and self facade. Cross dressing and gender fascination was always prevalent and it only got worse at age 12-14 when puberty started, then years later I one day found myself in a doctors office asking to see a gender psych, and boom. I tried for what feels like a very long time to hide it but it seeps out eventually.

 

Yeah my only 2 close friends at the time both hinted at it/encouraged me before I even came out to them. that was before I was even sure I wanted to actually transition.

 

I always doubled down on my efforts to act my assigned-at-birth gender, because of society. Any feminine mannerisms were kept strictly private. Still, they would eventually emerge while intoxicated ( and it is painfully obvious in many party pictures).

I came out to my dancing instructor and she told me that she always wondered why a lot of my dance moves always seemed too feminine, she said was always aware there was something off there, but couldn't quite place it.

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I think my grandma might have known something before I knew. She never said anything to me about it though.

 

I'm pretty sure everyone knew before me. It was like it was written on my forehead or something.

My mom would tell me that I should ''act more like a girl'' because she was worried I'd get bullied. Or, she'd try to get me girly clothes only to give up when I never wore them.

My friends knew I hated anything girly and my teachers probably knew by the way I always wrote of myself in the masculine form (yeah, Latin languages and their gendered nouns and adjectives...). Heck, in fourth grade, our teacher made us write something about ''three things we would ask a genie''. One of them was to be a boy, ha!

Like, if knew earlier that being trans was a thing, I would have figured it out quickly, too.

 

My best friend said she "wasn't surprised" by it and two of my other friends had an argument over it a week before I came out, one was convinced and the other didn't consider it until I told him.

 

Actually one of my close friends said he wasn't really surprised.

 

Some people said they weren't surprised. Others said they knew. A couple were surprised, they had assumed I was a lesbian.

 

My guy friends said it made sense but they'd never thought about my gender before. Then a friend from highschool I told said she kind of figured but I could also have been a butch lesbian.

 

My mom repeatedly asked if I was a trans guy before I came out to her.

 

yes, nearly all of my friends online, almost all of whom are trans as well.

I think my mom might have had a suspicion earlier, and one of my Aunts seems to have known already, even though I still haven't told my extended family.

 

Not with gender, but people have thought I was gay before I knew I was.