Expressing masculinity

Hi there

I feel like a guy, I am a girl, I'm fine with it and don't want to transition, but I feel like my gender isn't being expressed. So... how do you express your masculinity? Does it help you connect with other people in masculine ways? How do you go about expressing a tougher and sharper side of masculinity?

 

I'm not particularily dysphoric but from what I talked to people, I seem to be feminine. Being a tomboy would be fine with me, proveded that it happened at all. I'm pretty sure I'm a quite distanced person and I'm plain and simple not behaving in any way at all quite frequently. (I believe that a neutral expression and feminine body equals femininity what it comes to perception)

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I can't do the clothes. I can't bring myself to do it, because men's clothing plain doesn't fit and it doesn't make me look masculine either. Funny, I pass as an effeminate guy from time to time. But no, it doesn't help any. There's not much I can do about the hair either. I already have a chin length haircut, and anything shorter doesn't look good, and doesn't look more masculine. But longer hair just looked hella feminine, and I can't put up with that.

Working out might be a good idea, I have to take up some sport anyway because my physique lately is not in the best condition. I even began slowly working out a bit, because I didn't move at all since summer. And I'm trying to look into it anyway. The thing is... would that help the social part? I hope so...

Cars and other appliances and stuff to repair would be a short way to go for me, because I'm an engineer already. But my car doesn't break too often Well, tech seems to be something I pick up anyway, simply because I do it for a living. I could know more about computers probably. But again - would that help?

Because I feel completely man enough by myself, and I don't really have the need to act out any thing. Okey, I have the need to act out if I fancy someone. Or when I get angry. But that's it. It's just the people thing being a problem

I have a feeling that I'm quite aloof already :icon_bigg

 

Yeah, no Arnies, but I have no idea what people think is masculine. I sort of lived in a cave full of books called also "my room" for x years.

 

Shoulders are okey, but my hips are wide and I have soft features. I tried to fight that, but to be honest nothing works. But maybe I should have bought an M sweater instead of S. Nevermind, it just doesn't work. I can wear men's clothing head to toe and I still get read as ladylike. Like, why??? I don't demand being read as a man. I just demand being read as behaving like one.

---------- Post added 10th Feb 2017 at 02:43 AM ----------

Well, not just behaving, behaving because that's how my personality is, not because of something else.

 

Yeah, I pass every once in a blue moon too, and funnily enough, I'm always wearing women's clothes when I pass. No peach fuzz. Low body fat. I'm super skinny. I don't need to bind because it only takes a hoodie to hide the boobs.

But it doesn't help. I still get treated like someone ladylike. You know what a friend told me? That he couldn't have guessed because I don't behave like a dude. And I'm pretty sure he confused me for a guy when he firts met me. Or at least had to take a second look to determine.

I have a feeling like my style / expression is a bit too plain or something.

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Thank you for help though

 

My walk is something that disturbs ladies in the washroom and makes them stare at me and examine me head to toe. So no, that can't be it. It can't be the way I move, it makes me pass in a pink sweater and with boobs on sight. Hm. Maybe it's women who notice and men who don't. I can swear that the feminine girl who sat next to me lately got some sort of masculine or lesbian vibe from me, because she hasn't interacted with me in that feminine way. That might be confidence.

Too plain? Jeans, regular fit, a navy blue sweater, sneakers. Or skinny jeans and a roll neck and ankle boots. That's quite plain. The only "attractive" thing in all that might be my pretty face.

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I can't even imagine that realistically. It's too hypothetical. It would be too different from what I'm living now. I'm well to grounded in being a woman. And I don't even feel like wanting it. I don't feel like my body is wrong. I mean in the literal sense. From what I read around the forum, I just don't feel that way. Moreover, I like my body. In a "on its own" sense.

 

Well I'm not sure. If I wore my flowery skirt, that migjt make me not pass . Bedides, style expresses something and influences interactiond, as far as I've observed.

I mean, I'm so distanced in behavior and all I've been described as "I can't just read you like an open book" person, and all the hints at me being more masc then fem, or anything are really subtle, and I wouldn't expect anyone to notice such details.

 

I might be missing that, lol. I have a flowery skirt in my closet and a couple of blouses and cardigans that match it. I don't care what I wear that much, really. So... No, I don't really have a style. I might be missing on what is man style and what is not. As far as I'be noticed the clevage is different and you have to watch the cut of shirts, trousers and whatnot. But other than that?