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Hard time giving up the gentleman role

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by WeDreamOfPeace, Apr 19, 2017.

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  1. WeDreamOfPeace

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    Hey all

    Have been gravitating towards the transfeminine spectrum, but something keeps short-circuiting all that.

    I've always been a natural gentleman. I'll open doors for girls/women I don't know, carry bags/do anything physical for female friends, let myself get served last for women, etc. etc. However, if I'm a woman, how the hell am I supposed to let go of that?

    I often get sick to my stomach if I feel I'm being disrespectful in some way. Maybe it's just anxiety playing up again?

    Thankyou, peace, namaste (*hug*)
     
    #1 WeDreamOfPeace, Apr 19, 2017
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    No idea. I've always done that kinda stuff and I was born female.

    Don't think it's chivalry as such. More like good manners.
     
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    Eh, I just consider it being nice. I have a tendency to hold open doors, lend a jacket, or pay for random stuff for acquaintances or friends. The thought of someone walking into a door, shivering from cold, or walking away without whatever they tried to buy, when they're right next to me, just bugs me. I guess its like being a "gentlewoman"?

    Either way, It's a nice quality to have :slight_smile:
     
    #3 skittlz, Apr 19, 2017
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    I'm like that usually. The girl I'm dating calls me "gentlewoman". :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
    #4 Dryad, Apr 20, 2017
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    Why do you need to let go of those behaviors? To me they just sound like good manners people should try to keep up regardless of gender.
     
    #5 AaronV, Apr 20, 2017
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    I tend to hold the door for literally anyone, reguardless of appearence. It's just a nice thing to do, no reason to give that stuff up.
     
    #6 Zoe Izumi, Apr 20, 2017
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    Cheers for responses everyone. You have no idea how much you've all helped me :slight_smile:

    Love you all

    Peace *hugs*
     
    #7 WeDreamOfPeace, Apr 20, 2017
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    This.
     
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