Hi all.* I just want to ask some advice about coming out because at the moment I'm finding it very hard.* My parents aren't the most accepting of the LGBT community. Not like they're transphobic or homophobic, but it's still uncomfortable when they make mildly insulting jokes about them. Today there was a pride event in town and I was asking myself all day why I wasn't*down there. But the answer is simple: Im stuck in a rut. I can't get this support of going out and socialising with other people like me without coming out. And I can't come out because I'm scared of my parents reactions.* I've never really shown any obvious outwards signs of being trans. Not to my parents. And if I came out it would probably shock them and throw them into denial. I'm scared they'd just push my away. Not like throw me out. Just detach from me.* I need to drop some hints. I've already made it clear that I don't like their jokes about trans people and gays but they'll never take the bait and ask if I'm trans and even if they did, what would I even say? I just need to drop some hints. Some subtle differences that'll mean they're less shocked when I finally come out.* Anyways, thanks for reading. Any replies would be greatly appreciated*
Hi! You should definitely start out with dropping hints, like you said. Act more feminine around your parents. Ask them if you can start growing out your hair, or maybe ask for more feminine (or unisex?) clothes. Maybe you could get some makeup somehow, and let them catch you with it (don't do this if you know they'll punish you, though!). You could find a way to slip a question like "What would you do if you found out someone you knew was transgender?" into a conversation with them and see how they would react. Then, after you've been dropping hints for a while, you could write them a letter explaining that you're transgender. I've found that writing coming out letters is easier than coming out to someone face to face. There's a bunch of different coming out letters online, so you could look at those for inspiration if you wanted to. Or, you could talk to a guidance counselor at school and tell them that you are transgender. They could set up an appointment with your parents, and they could tell your parents about it. If you feel like it's unsafe to come out to your parents, I'd wait until you aren't dependent on them anymore to come out. I hope this helped in some way. I wish you the best of luck. (*hug*)
You can try to educate them on the subject find a video that explains how LGBT people feel when they are being put down or insulted period and from there you can hope that the result will eventually be good or they will start to understand it might take time though and time is very important especially for people who are not in this situation. But whatever the case you have to understand you cannot always change somebody's opinions you cannot always make them agree with you or like you that was a lesson I had to learn myself as well and it's not a very nice one either but it is how it is and that is life you will find your own way and eventually those opinions and insults won't really matter as much
