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Coming out as trans at fourteen, help...?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by xJinxedFoolx, Apr 28, 2011.

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  1. xJinxedFoolx

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    So, I finally figured out I'm transgendered. Thinking back I've known since I was around 7.. I cut all of my hair off, I crossed dressed as a boy once, I started playing with boys toys, I wanted a boy bike, I hung out with the guys, I would've preferred to play sports and ride bikes rather then talking about cheerleading and make up.

    So, I've known I wasn't a girl, but I didn't know exactly what I was until about a year ago, when I started getting thoughts like, 'I wish I was a boy.' and I freaked out and pushed them out, now I've just started getting to the point I really cant, and I've gotten depressed.

    Almost to the point of self harm, I've been resisting as much as possible..

    I really cant live as a girl anymore. I'm much happier when I'm dressed as a boy, I am embarrassed while dressed like a girl, I REFUSE to go anywhere without a sweatshirt on. (Covering up my boobs and curves.)

    Please help, my mom doesn't even know I'm 'lesbian.' How can I tell her? I know she wouldn't kick me out or anything, she loves me no matter what, I already know. Cause shes told me.

    I know she wont accept it right away, but I just need to tell her. But, I cant seem to get the words out.

    Any advice?

    Anybody that's come out as FTM themselves?

    Please help me, I really want her to know so I can really start living my life.
     
    #1 xJinxedFoolx, Apr 28, 2011
  2. Hot Pink

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    Well, I've come out as MTF, if that's good enough?

    Trust me, I know exactly what you're going through. I was a year younger than one when things really "clicked" for me too and I realized I hated being a boy. Basically just reverse your childhood and we're the same.

    The best thing for you is that you're still young. Learn from my mistakes and don't wait another 12 years to come out--do it now. I mean it. I feel like I didn't start living until I came out to my parents. It was like I was set free.

    There's no such thing as ideal situations or timing. Well, just don't come out at a family gathering or a funeral. Discretion is still advised. If it's an otherwise ordinary day, just come out to your mom. It's always better to come out to individuals than groups.
     
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    My cousin's kid is trans - well, the kid is 8 and born as a girl but for the past two years has lived as a boy. My cousin is totally fine with it and no one in the family thinks its a big deal. I think me being gay is more of a big deal to them honestly :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I think you should tell her.
     
    #3 zerogravity, Apr 28, 2011
  4. xJinxedFoolx

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    Aha, of course MTF is good enough! All (non-discouraging) advice is welcome. :3
    I'm thinking about telling her, especially since I feel so depressed. Right now I can't, only because I'm having quite a bit of health problems. So, after my next test and she's feeling sympathetic for me? Aha. Or you know, it might slip out, as I'll be drugged out on Anesthesia.
    But, anyway, I just need to find the right way and words, and hopefully I will be able to tell her.. At least get the courage... I'm thinking of a letter... But, I dunno... Grr. Why does this have to be so nerve wrecking?
     
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    I'm 13, and I came out to my mom as Transgendered FtM 8 weeks ago.
    Ever since then, I've been in Therapy and all that, and got a binder about a Month ago.

    I just worked up the courage with my Boyfriend, and I was depressed because my mom would always talk about how she hated me acting as male, and she wanted me to wear makeup and she preferred if I did Cheerleading and crap like that, and she hated how my hair was short.
    So, one day I went upstairs, and asked if I could take tomorrow off from school, and she kept asking why so I just said screw it, and said I wanted to tell her something. So, I told her, she wasn't very accepting at first, but now she doesn't really care. She considers my Son, only on occasions. :L

    But, tell her soon. It's better now, then later. If you need a Therapist you can search on that site for one, and look for one in your state as Gender Specialist. That's the best way to go, unless there isn't then yeah.
    You'll feel much better when you're out. Just, work up some courage.
     
    #5 Wolfy, Apr 29, 2011
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