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Transition - Questions/Fears About Moving Out

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by squally89, Apr 5, 2012.

  1. squally89

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    I am 22 and I never moved out before (except this one time when my family wasn't okay about me being gay, but I moved back after a month so I don't count that as moving out) and I am just curious to know what I need to be prepared for.

    Things I know
    1.) Money - But how much is enough? My guess is I need at least 10K of saving before I can live alone and pay rent etc.
    2.) Job - I work for a client in Montreal at the moment and pursuing my real estate license. By May I will have a clearer picture of what is going on with my career.
    3.) Roommate vs No Roommate - I been offered to live with a good friend, but is it best to live alone or with someone?

    Challenges I am working on
    1.) Food - I love having warm food when I get home....yes very immature of me yes...
    2.) Little things...doing laundry at a sketchy basement or in public :eek:
    3.) The mentality - "I can always go home to eat dinner"...good or bad?

    My brother tells me if I really want to "move out" then I should move to somewhere FAR away. If I only move to somewhere else in the city is not actually moving out according to him. Hes so extreme. He goes on telling me the list above I can simulate that at home already, but I choose not to.

    What are people's experience about moving out or who are in the same boat as I am - getting ready for this transition.
     
  2. Leora

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    I mean, this is just a small thing, but you could get a slow-cooker if you like having hot food ready for when you get home. Prep it in the morning, put it in the slow-cooker, it's ready when you get home. :slight_smile:
     
  3. DhammaGamer

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    You are taking this way too serious lol
    If you have a job and can pay your bills off your regular paycheck you don't need $10,000 just to move into your own place. And learning to enjoy lviing away from your folks is a part of growing up. I don't understand the logic that you need to move far away in order to move out. That doesn't even make sense.

    I'd suggest getting a roommate for your first place. It will help with the bills and you willhave someone to talk to and hang out with at home.
     
  4. Chip

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    Your brother is full of it. You shouldn't feel any pressure to move far away if you don't want to. Being on your own is having your own place (or a place you share with a friend or roommate), buying your own food, paying your own bills, etc.

    I know people that have moved out successfully with waaaaaaaaay less than $10,000, but it depends on how quickly you'll be able to have a good job. As long as you have decent income and some money to cover unexpected expenses, you should be fine.

    As far as housing, it really depends on you. I know many people that prefer some sort of roommate or group housing arrangement, because that way they aren't coming home to an empty house. But I know plenty of others that like having their privacy. It can be nice, early on, to have a roommate or two because it helps with developing a network of friends, particularly if you're moving into a new town, but again, it's totally a personal choice.

    And many people who move out go home frequently at first, so don't feel bad about that. It's a transition for most people, not a black-or-white thing.