Gender confused

I would say yes. Gender identity is not a choice just in the way that sexual orientation is not a choice. Lots of people find out they are trans or gay and don't want to be so they suppress it, so in that way I think its very possible to be gender fluid and not want to be.

I know what you mean. Despite the hardships associated with being transsexual, I admit that I believe it's easier than possessing a more androgynous or gender neutral identity. In fact I have known people who after transitioning figured out there were genderqueer/bigender, and that is a legitimate fear of mine, that it could happen to me too. I logically don't think that's the case, but I tend to over think things.

You haven't really said anything as to why you feel you are transsexual/genderfluid, so I can't really give my opinion on either of those, but I think you should speak with a therapist. These are obviously valid feelings if they are effecting you enough to be posting here about it. Do yourself a favor and talk to a mental health professional about these feelings.

I hope you find the answers your looking for, and I'm always here if you need someone to talk to (*hug*)

 

I think it is possible to be gender fluid and not want to be. I think I may have started out that way because I was comfortable both ways. As time went on I became less comfortable as a male and more comfortable when acting/dressing as a female. Bottom line is things change. Talking to a therapist could definitely help but you do not need to committ to something right away. Explore yourself and think about it. In the mean time, there is absolutely nothing bad about being gender fluid.

 

Hello!!

Your words seem sad. Now you're with friends, so please don't be sad.

You said you've been thinking about being a male for a couple years. On your status says you're 15, that would make you started thinking that at 13.

I have a transgender friend, FtM, and he says he realized his nature around that age (12-13 years old). Don't know if that's an idicator at all, but it seems to me that you may be transgeder.

I say that you should considerate taking J Snow's counsel, but in the meanwhile, ask youself "why". I mean: why you feel you want to be a male? why you feel you don't want to be a female?, and any other "why"s you can think of.

When I was ... forced ... to admit to myself I was transgender, those questions surely helped me.

I hope I could be of any help, (*hug*)

 

Gender identity is not something that you can choose. I know that I did not choose to be pangender. It's something that I have learned to live with, and a part of me that I have learned to love.

I can understand your concern with having to explain to people about being gender fluid. I've been lucky, most people just know that I am just me. I've had some people ask me why I dress like a guy sometimes and why I don't "act like a female". I just tell these people that I am who I am and if they have a problem with it, they can get over it.