Question about Gender Identity

Knowing what you are (gay, straight, cis-gendered, MTF, etc...) can't be confirmed by online or paper tests; they're something you have to discover YOURSELF, something that requires a bit of a mental journey and a lot of reasoning and thinking. If you honestly think you are MTF and you like being so, then you probably are. If you are confused then... well. You are confused.

 

Just as the other posters said.
You can't really confirm this sort of thing from tests.
Only you can figure it out for sure.
If you need anyone to just talk through things feel free to send me a message.

 

I wish there was a way to tell for sure. I really, really do. It'd help me so much. I'd almost do anything to be secure in my gender and sexuality.

 

No such thing as gender identity disorder. If you are a girl, then you are a girl. Are you a girl?

If you want to change your physical sexual characteristics, then talk to your physician and get the ball rolling. What makes a person transsexual isn't a fabled mental condition that the DSM would have you believe. What makes a person transsexual is the fact that they are physically altering their biology, specifically their secondary sexual characteristics. You aren't transsexual unless you are transitioning your physical sex, and you aren't a girl unless you SAY you are a girl.

Are you a girl?

You don't need to have a sex change to be a girl. But you do need to have a sex change to have less body hair, softer skin, redistribution of body fat, breast development, changes to the libido and other mental/emotional processes. You need a sex change to have a vagina. Do you want these things? Do you want a vagina? Talk to your physician to get the ball rolling.

Your physician isn't going to tell you if you are a girl or not. Your therapist isn't going to tell you if you are a girl or not. No one is going tell you or anyone else whether or not you are a girl. You are a girl because you say you are a girl.

Are you a girl?

 

yup me too but opposite, i liked to go in my room and put on male clothing gramma gave me or my grampa's clothing and i look at myself and felt real...normal. And then later on in high school i got a need some days MUST go to school dressed very male, and even made gramma take photo of me once to look at later...so I could see myself male. I think only ourself + confirmation by a GID specialist can make us sure. And when ready you can do stuff to make yourself feel better all the time. I wear only mens stuff now, it has helped me. And I have told mom and my college knows, and both accept me.

I wish there was an easy test too!

 

I want to be a girl. I want to say I'm a girl. I like to think it's as easy as that. Event something as simple as THINKING of myself as a girl makes me feel better. Whatever that even means.

 

Hi Kylie,

You seem to want affirmation that you are a girl. You aren't looking for a test to determine whether you are a girl, your wording indicates that you want a test to confirm that you are a girl. You want proof.

For me, this is adequate information to conclude that you are a girl. If your gender identity was not to be a woman, you would not be looking to be affirmed as a woman.

So, I think you are a girl. Or maybe a woman--how old are you?

Welcome to Empty Closets!

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It's pretty much as easy as that. But you are probably struggling with a little denial still, which is making it seem more complicated. Because while on the one hand you want to be a girl, on the other hand you probably are afraid of what that will mean.

 

For me, I have always been female inside. I went for years once with no mirrors in my house but a small shaving mirror because I did not want to be reminded of my male looks.

Womens jewlery, cloths, heels, handbags have always felt right. I have always loved a stationwagon type car and drive one even now. Silly I know, but I had no idea trans people existed till this year and I knew at once I was one.

I don't know about you but for me I was told I was gay in my teens, but I never fit into the gay world. I tried hard for years to attract a gay man without any luck. Most straight men have always viewed me as a woman on some level. No matter how butch I act or I look on the outside men always seem to treat me like a lady within a short time of knowing me.

I sure wish I had not been so sheltered by my parents who felt I had to be gay and I had been able to have been transformed. So I agree with the earlier comment to get the ball rolling right away! It is too late for me so my dreams of a husband and kids will never happen. Oh I do have a man and he does accept my body, but outward we are viewed as roomates, this is a small town.

It sounds to me that you are a girl like me. Search your innermost desires and if you find yours are like mine to have a husband and kids. Then get your body fixed right away while your whole life is ahead. I regret not finding out sooner so I could have had a chance at a fullfilled life. Good luck! June

 

I'm 23 and probably won't be able to start the transition process for months, maybe even a few years. I wish there had been an easy test, but the more time that passes, the more strongly I feel that I would like to transition and I long to be treated properly instead of continuing to endure.
I'm disappointed and sad that I missed out on growing up male and having the life I secretly expected and wanted. But I am very anxious for my future to be better.

It sounds like you're pretty confident, and willing to seek the future you want, too. I'm really happy for you!