Hey, So labels are a love/hate thing for me. I like labelling myself to feel part of a larger group, but I hate them because I don't fit any very well. I have a problem where I can't really define my attractions very well or what I am attracted to. Nearly all of the things that mentally turn me on feel like fetishes. -Age differences/power imbalances (young/older guy) (young/older women) (young guy/older women) I have been fantasizing about these kinds of scenarios since I hit puberty and love porn that has these involved. If one person is very large and muscular compared to the other, that can substitute if there isn't an age difference. -General domination type stuff (not bdsm really, but just mentally the idea of one person being submissive and the other dominant) Basically anything that I find attractive already gets amped up by powerplay immensely. -Transgender attraction (mtf) I have been super turned on by trans porn ever since I stumbled upon it many years ago. I am not saying being attracted to someone who is trans is a fetish, but maybe being sexually attracted because they are trans is, especially considering the male parts + feminine body are a big part of what is exciting. Sometimes I fantasize about it without visuals (in my fantasies I am always the dominant one), but usually when I am only using fantasy my mind turns to the age domination thing, usually involving guys. - Visually (porn), girl/girl sex turns me on alot. Sometimes it can be generic girl/girl porn. The best stuff is stuff with powerplay in it and I am also very turn on by "realistic" girl/girl porn (the kind lesbians always complain there isn't enough of). But without the visual of a sexy womanly body with all its perks, my mind doesn't usually go that direction when I have to use pure fantasy. - I don't like gay porn with generic hot guys. I don't fantasize about generic hot guys. I think I have only fantasized about young guys maybe like 3-5 times my whole life, and that was when I was a lot younger. - I don't fantasize about heterosexual sex or penetrating a women. But I do fantasize about women sometimes but I attach some scenario to it. The idea of penetrating a women isn't really hot (not unappealing though) but being "sexual" touching, being allowed to do whatever I want is hot. The idea of penetrating someone who is trans or possibly a very femine androg male does turn me on and I do fantasize about that without visuals occasionally. This doesn't really happen with guys, unless there is an age difference/powerplay thing. I may have been rambling a little the last few bullet points. I have had sex with a guy before (my current bf, my own age) and I enjoyed it, the orgasm at least, but I am not sexually attracted to him. I fantasized about being dominated by an older guy the whole time. I have been with a girl once, and I enjoyed her smell and softness and curviness. It turned me on but not anywhere near the level my normal fantasies do. I didn't feel like orgasming necessarily, even though I was turned on by her contact. I love my bf as a best friend and am so happy to have him, he is helping me alot, but I know that I can't see myself being with him forever. I know the advice is "meet people for people" and blah blah see what happens, but I feel like there is no one out there for me. I am not interested in the random guys at bars or random girls at bars in anyway execept to "test" my attractions. I want to label myself, but feel too fucked up sexually to be apart of any group. I am uncomfortable with the idea of not having any true attractions, it would sadden me and I have trouble reconcilling that with all the things that give me sexual pleasure. Other than these kinds of sexual identity issues I couldn't hope for a better life, but they depress me at times.
Fetishes have nothing to do with your sexual orientation.Me myself im gay and i have a foot fetish.Soon i realised that the lust is for the object of the fetish,not for the person who causes it.You dont have to meet other people,if youre sure enough that you are who you are,meeting people would be suggested if you didnt know what do you like or so.(Just an oppinion from someone who has a fetish).
I think this may call for some therapy, if there are emotional attachment issues, there may be something deeper here to explore...
If you mean the age thing. I was never abused and I have a good relationship with my father and mother.
I used to have a foot fetish. They aren't anything special now but when I was a kid going through psychosexual development (which we all go through), feet were the first thing that aroused me. I had no idea where it came from or why. I sometimes joke and think my foot fetish turned me gay because it started off with girl's and women's feet. There was this girl neighbor I had as a kid and I can remember whenever we went swimming I would take glances at her feet. It was a turn-on. Not just her, but lots of girls. Their legs and feet were hot. By the time I was age 12-13, I began switching over to looking at guy's feet and legs and started finding it arousing. In fact, that marked the beginning of experiencing same sex attraction. My attraction to guys would grow more and more, and girls and their feet became "boring."
Thats so true!SOOO true!I agree completely.I love mens feet lol but now they got boring and i started to focus on other parts of men,even though im gay from the moment i remember myself
Yeah, I don't know where they originated from. But honestly from your description you seem bisexual as opposed to a true gay.
