My person thinks he's a boy

So 1 yr ago my person thinks he's a boy still thinks a boy I've asked once and he got mad I questioned him . How do u know ur mtf for sure? Anyone knows a guy is without thinking they're a guy in the wrong body right ? I don't want him mutilating himself and making a mistake .

 

First off, the correct term would be ftm. Mtf would refer to a woman who was assigned male at birth.

And alright, so in a nut shell, you're concerned that he's making a mistake and that he'll be 'mutilating' himself. And that he 'thinks' he's a boy.

Honey, he's a boy. 100%. Doesn't matter what's in his pants. Doesn't matter what you think of him. And he's not making a mistake. His identity is his to own. Believe me. I know a guy who was born in the wrong body quite well myself. You might say I know him better than myself.

Your job is simply to be supportive and to respect who he is. To question him and to doubt him might actually be the worst thing you can do (and I mean this as nicely as possible). He knows who he is. And if he wants to transition, you need to lay off him and let him make his own choices. His body, his person, his identity. It's not your job to make sure he's certain. That's his job and his alone. Trust me. As a transman, I know I'd be more than mad if someone kept doubting me and badgering me to be 'sure' of myself.

Look, really don't want to mean you any offense but honestly, he knows who he is. I think it's time to step back and accept him and be the support he needs without question.

 

I just worry yknow ? He's like my best friend and he's my well kind of a bf

 

I didn't want to offend anyone I wanna protect him and make him happy

 

Re: My person is a boy

There's no need to worry about him. Believe me. That's not going to be of any help for him to question and worry and undermine his choices. It's better to just lay off, let him be, and be supportive. When you question someone for being trans, you're picking a scab and making it worse than if you just rolled with his identity.

 

That's why I asked hello ! I'm trying to comprehend so he can feel good about himself

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I don't know anything about dating ,especially a transman and I feel so bad I can't give him the pleasure CIs men get .

 

Hint. We're guys. Treat him no different. Just depends on communication like any other relationship.

 

Thanks

 

Yes. Virgin, dude. What do you expect? That he'll wake up and say "Oh. Thank you. All your incessant questioning has made me 100% about who I am! I needed all that and the resulting dysphoria and doubting, it made me a stronger person and now I'm going to go sing an inspirational Disney song!" ?

Again. Questioning will not help him. Undermining his identity will not help him. Making sure he's happy or 'certain,' I guarantee will only lead to the opposite.

Okay. Let's take this from your perspective. Imagine if, say, your best female friend kept questioning you about your sexuality. "Gee. Are you really sure you're queer? Maybe you'll all putting thoughts in your head? Maybe you're not really queer and you're just doing this so you can be a special snowflake. Ah, but see. I'm trying to help you. I don't want you making a mistake. Trust me. You should really think about loving men full time because you're a woman and if you go down the queer path, you'll never come back!"

See? That's how it sounds.

 

Thanks u don't need to be smarty pants I get it