Giving up porn

I did that to where i switched to extreme porn although, i dont feel like a creep afterwards.
it does reduce my self esteem though.

 

Giving up porn was really great for me. I feel much more secure emotionally now. I don't miss it at all.

 

I was kind of thinking about giving up porn. But I usually masturbate daily. How am I supposed to keep on doing that without porn? I can have some fantasies, but not daily. Sooner or later (and probably sooner) I will run out. Does giving up porn make you masturbate less?

 

I think this is an important time it highlight that porn is not bad, it's just some people's connections with porn is bad. I would love to stop, but I really don't want to think about other guys again. I did that for so long, and all it did was make me feel super upset because I never felt I could get the guy. So with porn, I can float away...it works for me right mow, but not for all. I admire anyone who makes good life decisions...just want to highlight it's a personal thing and this isn't bad.

 

In some ways, I'm sort of glad I grew up before Internet porn. It forced me to use imagination. (Being gay also helped in this regard. I don't think it was hard to find some sorts of porn back then. But the porn that could realistically be obtained with reasonable ease was for straight guys. Like the ever popular copy Playboy.)

I just wish I'd understood and accepted my sexuality better back then... I think I had too much control on my fantasies so that I could lie to myself and pretend I really was a normal guy. If I'd understood and accepted myself better, and then decided to let the fantasies go where they would...well that might have been fun.

 

Oh my god, yes, any addiction is bad. I just want everyone to make the right decisions for themselves and know we are all here for each other.

 

I don't think porn is bad. On the contrary! But lately I have been feeling it's become a little impersonal. I don't get strong orgasms. It's like I am growing bored of it. The obvious answer is to find a guy to have sex with, but that's not all that easy. Do you get what I say? I feel like it is time to move on from porn, although I don't mind watching porn at all.

But giving up porn is really dificult. For starters, fantasizing takes much more time and it requires total solitude and concentration. If there is someone else in the house, there is no way I can fantasize. In addition, fantasizing actually requires some emotion, which brings us to what you mentioned too. In the sense of an everyday quick pleasure, fantasizing can't replace porn...

 

As a teenager, I sometimes liked fantasies about imaginary guys. In one way this was denial--I could pretend that I was really only interested in the fact they were everything I wasn't. But one could come up with fun stories and details...

More recently, I've imagined the sex lives of a couple of characters in one of my unfinished novels.

 

I can't say for others, but for me giving up porn was hard at first but once I consistently avoided it the craving for it was reduced greatly. I feel better about giving it up.

 

I do recommend giving it up. I have as well, and I'm hoping actually to stick to it this time.

 

ouch! i can't imagine giving up porn. i guess you should though if it's a problem. when i don't have access to porn, i use my imagination. it works pretty well. you say you're gay, so i'm guessing you'd be ok with using a sex toy. that also helps if you're not using porn.

 

I only watch porn maybe 2 or 3 times a month despite masturbating on a daily basis, usually when I'm too lazy to imagine or I want something else to refresh my imagination.

I took a break from masturbating recently though, mostly because I read something interesting that made me want to test it. Masturbating daily seems to reduce the level of testosterone in the body, making a person more tired/sleepy during the day, and is more prone to depression (apparently there's a link between testosterone and the level of dopamine). How true is all of that? I don't know, but considering how easy it is to verify, I figured I might as well try it. I'm on Day 4 today (6 hours left) and I'm definitively a bit more energetic and in a good mood, but it's too early to claim that it's because I haven't masturbated for a few days. Apparently the level of testosterone peaks after 7 days, I wonder just how high my libido will be. Haven't had trouble resisting so far however.

 

Not that hard actually:

1- masturbate less so you dont run out of imagination, masturbating less also will make it easier to get aroused, so it will fuel your imagination.

2- dont make fast fantasies, instead focus on the details of the fantasy: where are you, what are you doing, what is the mood, maybe the backround etc

3- change elements between a masturbation session and the next: change the person you are fantasizing about, change what you are actually doing, be creative.

4- when you want to use something to fuel your fantasies dont use porn, read erotic literature at the internet or a book, or watch any R rated movie that have sexy scenes, you dont have to watch the whole movie you can just watch the scene.

 

I think you'll find that your imagination is a sufficient, albeit more subdued substitute.

 

To me watching porn is just well boring and plus it kind of is a turn off of what the actors do since I myself would never do some of the things the actors face and plus imagination for me is kind of bad but better than porn. Imagination is bad in my opinion because I dont want to fantasise about my crushes or else it would be way harder for me to resist the temptation for them. I only masturabte like idk.. 2-3 a month and sometimes I dont even masturbate for that month and the reason why I dont masturabte much is because I like to think of my crushes and that fills in my needs to masturbate which is what I found out when I hanged out with my friend like only him and me because the pleasure of him being beside me just removes the thought of me having to masturbate since back before I even met him I masturbated like a lot in a day and I just couldn't help myself. But I can only hold on to that moment before I need a new one to fill in the old one.. Kind of like a when your filling a bottle of water since there is only so much water that it can hold before you need to refill it which is what it is kind of like in my situation so I try to hangout with him and me together by making excuses to go do something or buy something and sometimes its scary because I imagine him and me as a couple and some of the things I think of come true but I only think of it as close friends actions and nothing more. Maybe you should hangout with your crush or something and that feeling may stop you from masturbating that much like me .

 

I don't find porn something necessary for masturbation, although roughly 80% of the times I do, I do it with porn. But what I really like is pictures of school crushes or celebrities, I find that and imagination a really good combo.