I want to have gay friends and a relationship too but Im scared to talk to most guys

Re: I want to have gay friends and a relationship too but Im scared to talk to most g

Hm... you seem to be stuck.

I suggest a gay bar or any LGBT organisations, take your time off, or when you are free, you should go there are meet people. You'll probably be able to make gay friends there. But I would like to stress that the important thing is that you do make friends.

Since you are close by the gym, perhaps you should workout as well, maybe you'll become more attractive and it will save you the part where you have to walk up to someone and ask.

As for the guys who are attractive and walk into your shop, perhaps a nice, hello or a, how's life? would help alleviate the anxiety. Being friendly automatically attracts people and will help with your anxiety issue.

I think the biggest issue here that is preventing you from getting a partner or friends is your anxiety, just act friendly and you will attract people.

You gotta tell yourself what Elphaba told herself in wicked:

"...it's time to trust my instincts,
close my eyes, and leap..." - Defying Gravity

I wish you well.

Good luck.

 

Re: I want to have gay friends and a relationship too but Im scared to talk to most g

Social Anxiety is 90% about confidence.

Are they going to like me?, Am I going to say something stupid?, etc.

Its not very realistic to think that you will ever get to the point where you completely don't care, as clearly the point of all of it would be to make a new friendship or relationship; however, the important part is to not think that we didn't immediately become best friends because I'm annoying, or he didn't ask me out because I'm not attractive enough. You have to wake up ever morning and love what you see. You have to think about who you are on the inside and find contentment in that person because when you come to the point that you do, no one or nothing can ever make you feel less than what you really are.

I used to get nervous in social settings or speaking to those I am attracted to, but at one point I just recognized that everyone in this world won't fancy me. Some will love me; Some will hate me; and I would be wasting a lot of time in my life if I keep stressing over which side the next person will fall.

 

Re: I want to have gay friends and a relationship too but Im scared to talk to most g

Exact same situation as you, but I have come to a decision, I am going to attend a LGBT group near college, also have issues with anxiety, however, after a really hard thought about it I came to the conclusion that I either live or I don't and since I happen to be a being living his life it might just be worth it.

 

Re: I want to have gay friends and a relationship too but Im scared to talk to most g

Slow and steady wins the race. Work your way up to a conversation slowly. Start by just saying 'hi' or 'hello' to people at your register, and add more as you feel comfortable. Eventually you'll be able to talk to guys.

 

Re: I want to have gay friends and a relationship too but Im scared to talk to most g

In a lump sum this problem is me also, except add to that my geographic locale that I can do nothing about. I just wish I wasn't gay then I'd not have to worry about all ^ that.