So basically it's a story that everybody knows. Porn is an inaccurate way of determining your sexual orientation, but I must ask however; is it TOTALLY INACCURATE? I mean say if you watch straight porn and get aroused by it but then watch gay/lesbian porn and not get turned on at all. Does that mean anything? Because if you cannot get aroused by the porn you identify as, is that a sign of something, if not; then does it mean it has literally ZERO ACCURACY, or what?
Well I think watching porn lets you explore your sexuality without being judged, whilst in person its a whole different experience. Maybe you with feel differently when you have tried it.
It's not totally inaccurate. It's made to be titillating, though. It's not a realistic depiction of sex. With that said, it can be a very helpful factor in determining one's sexuality. Oftentimes it can be the largest stepping stone, right behind 'real life' crushes and such. If, for instance, though, one is turned off by women in porn, perhaps they're just not into women in that way. If one is into women in porn, though, perhaps they do like women that way. It's best to 'use' porn, if one must, in conjunction with one's own fantasies and day-to-day attractions towards others to get an accurate picture of one's sexuality.
Hmm, sounds an awful like myself when I started crushing on girls shortly after my discovery of porn.....
Luthan has a good point here: attraction to porn usually means something. Non-attraction to it may mean nothing. I certainly know I'm attracted to men, but most gay porn does nothing for me. I really don't know how to explain the difference in a tasteful manner, but basically in porn I look for very specific things, almost fetishes, that don't really matter to me in RL sexual situations.
Which is part of the reason I always preferred Soft-Core Porn to Hard-Core Porn. It seems more realistic and focuses less on the "BIG EVERYTHING!" Which never mattered to me honestly. A woman does not need pair of big breasts and a big butt to get my attention, all she needs is a pretty face and maybe if not asking too much, a Superman shirt. :3
Yeah it is. I thought I was bi because I watched porn with women in it and got turned on...read my orientation description.
Having been outted for walking away from lesbian porn, I'm pretty sure it's not totally inaccurate, at least in some cases where no amount or variety of opposite/same sex porn is arousing.
it may not be totally inaccurate but its a horrible way to determine your sexual orientation. Porn...I never questioned my sexual orientation because of it but for those who do question because porn ...is probably not the best thing. it can lead to discovered a side of you that you didn't know but In all seriousness, I think You should go with your attractions in real life. Not porn. I orgasm easily and get turned on by straight porn. should I be worried I'm straight or Bisexual because of it? No porn has done so much more damage then good. i'll tell you.
Personally, and I might be assuming a bit here, it sounds like there might be more to your story than just pornography viewing habits alone. If someone is secure in their sexuality, the type of pornography they watch won't make a difference to them, certainly not enough for them to question as much as you've done. Perhaps your porn viewing preferences have brought something inconvenient to the surface?
Alright, but why would the idea of being gay even seriously cross your mind in the first place? For years, others implied or joked about me being gay, and it rolled off my back. No sweat. Sometimes I wonder if they seriously suspected long before I did, were just being idiots, or maybe a little of both.
Go ahead. I'm still trying to figure it all out, myself, though I'm slowly coming to terms with "it".
Personally, it had some accuracy to it; for example, I sought out gay porn because I felt the desire. The desire and same sex attraction came before the porn. I think it also matters where you fall on the sexuality continuum. For myself, it was pretty clear I was gay, for others it's not as clear and they're more in the middle and there is more difficulty finding clarity and understanding, so I see how the porn situation could be confusing.
I suppose it could help, but only to a degree. However, if you're really struggling to figure things out here, I think you should ask yourself what you find attractive outside of porn; for example, if you're walking down a city street or just out in public, who catches your eye more? Do you have a tendency to be attracted to females or males? If you fantasize or masturbate without porn, which sex is on your mind? Also, of course, beyond sex, could you see yourself in a long term committed relationship with a male or a female? I think those are important questions.
I have heard of quiet a few lesbian getting turned on by male gay porn so no I don't think its accurate but you could look at the way one watches it for instance if your watching straight porn and imagining yourself as the man being the one satisfying a women that could say something
