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Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Cynder, Jul 31, 2013.

  1. Cynder

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    Do you guys have a lot if lgbt friends? If you do, how did you make them? I always get really lonely because I'm not out to any of my friends, and I have no one to talk to about anything, and I can't ever hang out with anybody as a boy. I really want to be able to be with friends and be myself at the same time, but I don know if that is possible. Any advice?
     
  2. bethpurple

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    Sorry, I have no advice - I joined this site because I also had no one to talk to IRL. Welcome to the lonely club. :dry:
     
  3. TheEdend

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    Its definitely possible, but its a bit trickier at your age.

    Do you know if there are any LGBT youth groups around your area that you can go to?

    I know it sucks, but hang in there. Until you are able to find a good place there is always EC where you will certainly run into other people who can be a great support for you. I know, not the same, but we are here for you (*hug*)
     
  4. Sal

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    I too wish that I had lgbt friends in real life. I'm going to try and join my school's version of GSA this year so hopefully I'll make some friends there.
     
  5. Moment4Life

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    I wouldn't say I have a lot, the notion "there are gay people in your area you just have to find them" is quite true. I live in a mid sized city and although my university has an LGBT club, my LGBT friends I found on a whim. My supervisor at the campground I worked at last year was lesbian and it wasn't until I met her girlfriend that I knew; they became really solid friends.

    I guess patience is key, and becoming a bit of a detective in finding out what facilities attract gay and lesbian people. Of course, like others have said, your age group is a bit trickier.
     
  6. FreeFlow9917

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    No just one bi friend idk how i met her
     
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    T also am MtoF and have never been able to get a gay or lesbian friendship going. I have found cis-women tend to be who I hang with and the most accepting of me. I also have yet to have a friendship with a straight man that has not turned sexual. I never come on to them in any way which I have found them to expect of me. I think that is what intrigues them and causes them to hit on me. (what's wrong with me? Don't you want it?) The last one told me he had a gay friend for over 10 years who hit on him endlessly and would get jealous of his GFs which bothered him. Then several months in he wanted to know why I did not want him. After all he is one of the best looking guys I have seen in years and 9 years younger than me and we got along great. So I told him I was a lady and conduct myself accordingly and if he wanted more he had to initiate it. Well a couple weeks later it happened, and it was great! We had great sex off and on for 6 months. He then played games for months then Mike came to me and my friend got mad I chose Mike over him. I really did not think he wanted a relationship though he hinted all the time saying things like "You are the perfect woman" "What a lucky man who gets you" "The one is closer than you think" "It might be me" He drove me crazy! Lost that friend! It always happens with guys I try to be friends with so I rarely try. I'll bet over the years I have had that simuliar thing happen 50 times in my adult life and a couple did become my partners over the years. Women are just a much safer bet! June
     
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  8. robotman

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    I feel the exact same way, its getting me really angry and annoyed...