Okay, so I probably should tell you the whole story. One day, my bestfriend decided to come out to me that he is gay and he's been seriously dating someone for over a year. I mean, he's been living out of the country for school so I don't see him really much. I was really cool with it, because I also think I'm gay. Well, in the end I decided to accept me being gay since I've been denying it all the way. but seeing that I'll have my bestfriend supporting me, I decided come out to him, and things have never been easier between us. We got nothing to be hid from each other. The thing is, he decided to help me explore new things since I'm new to this man and man relationship. Well, we kissed, and do some things but I can't even get hard. I mean, I feel the arousal, but I just seemed so confused and overwhelmed. The thing is, I never had any problem of getting off with gay porn, but the real thing scares me. a lot. and it makes me nervous like hell. My bestfriend was really cool about it and said that maybe I just wasn't ready. But I'm really concerned now. I've been accepting myself as a gay man and now I'm too scared to be one? I can't even get hard seeing another man? What am I now, like asexual? Someone please help me.
Sounds to me like its just nerves getting in the way, I would suggest to take your time and try to get more comfortable in that situation and see how things go.
Yeah.. it's nerving. Especially when you're doing it with someone that you've been friends with, it's kinda...different. I know I enjoy that the most personally. To feel my friend get hard in my hand haha.. a little graphic, but I like the adrenaline. If I try with strangers, I still get up but there's a really big disconnect. I think it's just a new concept for you honestly and circumstances can change moods. A lot of the time when we watch porn, our expectations are skewed and we feel like there should be a...pornish aspect to the hook up and hooking up with an actual person isn't exactly that way until you're good at having sex.
Thanks for replying. I guess I kinda freaked out. And yeah, I do feel nervous. I just hope this doesn't happen when I actually meet someone in the future. :bang:
Don't put any stock into your first experience man. The first girl I had sex with, I didn't have any problems with erections at first, but after like fifteen minutes it just went away. I was just way too nervous because it was my first time. However, ever since then there have been no issues. It's amazing how much our mind can affect us physically, especially when we're nervous. Just think of it as stage fright lol. Adding in that he is your best friend, you'd have all kinds of extra emotions going on that could have affected an erection. And porn, well porn is an industry. Its supposed to get you hard and make you want to buy stuff. Your best friend isn't going to be the same because you care about him. Just chalk it up to emotions and don't let it stress you out when you get with someone : )
