Am I the only gay guy who is unattractive?

You probably arent as ugly as you think and the right person for you wont care.
Luckily you are gay so makeup isnt out of the question if you are super concerned
(bad advice)

Outside appearances dont matter because people are into everything, you will find people who think you are awesomely attractive.
Cheers!

 

Okay I have this problem as well. Well had. Well I think this way at the very least. I think I'm the only unnattractive gay guy, and that's a thought that terrifies me every day. But I've learned that we notice our own imperfections and focus on them more than strangers viewpoint on your imperfections. You notice every thing wrong iwth you. And only you do that. Everyone else, notices nothing, and focuses on few things. So you may think your unnattractive, but you actually are, in your own individual way. And besides, if someone truly loved you, they wou;dn't care about your imperfections, they'd love you for you.

 

I used to think that way, about the "league" thing, like there are times that i would think "oh this guy is so handsome/hot but he's out of my league" then he will make eye contact, then start to talk and compliments me... And i would be like surprised/confused and in my head I would be like "huh? is he talking to me? Shit don't make it awkward compose yourself" lol. So I guess there's no such thing as leagues, it's about preference/type...
We all have our own insecurities, yes even those guys that you consider "hot". So it's just a matter of how you carry yourself. Talk to everyone, be friendly. If you get ignored then move on... don't think so low of yourself man.... Smile those guys that you consider hot will find something attractive about you, you have to see yourself as a catch too...

 

You know, I have had the same experiences. Sometimes it's like a mixture of lust and jealousy all rolled into one :bang:

But the stuff I judge my own looks upon are usually so minuscule and irrelevant that I get a completely distorted view of my own appearance.
One example, I was feeling 'ugly' looking in the mirror one morning because I messed up shaving and my sideburns were uneven. For anyone else, I wouldn't be analysing their sideburns...that's for sure.

I also think that those unbearably hot guys sometimes divert attention away from many other guys who are cute but we overlook because of those other guys on our mind.
My point being that there is very likely a lot of very good looking guys who you might unconsciously be overlooking. It might mean joining up or going somewhere (LGBT group?) where you can meet said guys.

Man...I really need to take my own advice sometimes

 

Sometimes, a lot of these good-looking guys don't get hit upon as often as you think, primarily because other guys think they are too good-looking and therefore unapproachable...funny no?

I would suggest you try anyway with those you think are "above your league?, a little humour, a little forthrightness can be very charming no matter what you look like.

 

Pics or I dont believe you!

The game of attraction is 10% looks and 90% confidence & character.

It sounds like you have some image issues within your own mind though, when you say you wouldn't date someone who looks like you.. This shows how much value you place on looks above substance

 

This will sound really weird. If you "believe" that you are beautiful, then a quality of confidence comes out of you that makes you more attractive. Confidence is attractive.

Also, just try talking to them. If you are friends then surely one of them will eventually be attracted to you. Or they might like you from the start!

Give yourself a chance

 

A lot of the guys I'm attracted to are considered unattractive by my friends. I have weird taste. Guys will find you attractive. Maybe not all of them, but they're out there. Beauty is only skin deep anyway though. If a guy dismisses you because you're "ugly", he's not worth your time.

 

Oh God no, you're not the only one! You should see me if you think you're unattractive, you'd almost certainly look like Ryan Reynolds in comparison! I not only embody the "Forever Alone" rage face, I look like it too.

The advice everyone else has given you is spot on. It's not up to you to decide whether they're out of your league, it's up to them - and if they think they're out of your league physically, you're certainly out of their league emotionally.

You sound from your posts like you're dwelling on this a lot. Instead of letting yourself be grossed out when you look in a mirror, try to focus on all your good points, and repeat them to yourself like a mantra. That should help you to feel better about yourself. Otherwise you'll descend into a miserable state where you're too frightened to even look in the mirror anymore, and trust me, you do not want to end up like me.

 

we notice "conventional good looks" with ease, but can be turned off just as easily once they open their mouths to speak.

 

At BEST, I consider myself just average. I've learned to shift my focus from negative self image to one of health. To me, anyone who is striving to live a healthy life is attractive, if that makes sense. If you're eating right, exercising, carrying yourself with poise and a healthy level of confidence and treat people right, you're attractive! "Attractiveness" is very holistic, to me.

 

Really, you are probably being much harder on yourself than anyone else is. I have a daughter in high school and am always amazed at how many of the pretty girls are unattached, while there are a few who are downright ugly, but very friendly and self-confident, have boyfriends. I think a lot of it is more in how you look to YOURSELF than how you look to anyone else. We can all work on that (me included!).