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Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Kat kanu, Aug 20, 2013.

  1. Kat kanu

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    ok so ive never done anything with a girl and i have a really close friend that knows this. now she wants to change it. shes amazing, beautiful ,smart, and has an amazing personality (she everything i could ever want in a girl). the hang up im having is that she has a boy friend. now he doesn't care if his GF has sex with other girls (just not guys). how ever i really like her and i don't want to do some thing to jeopardize there relationship. he is also my friend and he would not even be in the same house if this happens.
    IDK
    help me what do you guys think
    :bang: my head hurts from thinking
     
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    If the only thing standing in your way is the boyfriend, and the would-be problems that might result from it, why not talk to the boyfriend? "Linda offered to be my first bed partner, and I'm both totally flattered and totally excited by it. But I'm worried that it would somehow mess up your relationship with her. I just want to make sure you're totally cool with this before I agree to it."

    Lex
     
  3. Kat kanu

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    hes 100% for it
    i think im more afraid that ill do something wrong or right and mess them up i cant do that to him
     
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    The odds that you will "screw up" their relationship by how you perform in bed are exceptionally low. Your friend has presumably been in your shoes, and understand the "I don't know what to do" mindset that you currently have. And no disrespect meant, but the myth of the virgin prodigy is extremely prevalent in porn and erotica (where somebody has sex for the first time and is absolutely mind-blowing at it), but I can't say as I've heard of many true-life examples. :slight_smile:

    That said, if you really are freaking out about the possibilities of your bed-romp somehow messing up their relationship, you might do well to decline. Not because it WILL mess up their relationship (I'm pretty sure it won't), but because you may be too obsessed about it to actually enjoy the encounter. :slight_smile:

    Lex
     
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    thanks LEX