So for some quick background, I used to be really overweight and never really thought twice about my appearance. In many ways, I never really explored my sexuality because I never thought anyone would want to have any kind of physical relationship with me. While I'm still in the closet, I recently shed a lot of weight and revamped my entire wardrobe. Girls have started coming up to me, including some I would normally consider "out of my league." But here's the thing: we're not playing the same game (usually). Since I never really dated, I've come to terms with my sexuality (gay, with the occasional female crush--4 or 5 on the Kinsey scale) without ever really experimenting. At this point in my life, I don't really want to get involved with a woman unless I was 100% sure I could commit myself to her. Now, my real question is for the guys who weren't like me and have been/are currently in relationships with women. There are friends and acquaintances I've made that are or have been in physical relationships with women and are without a doubt homosexual. I guess I don't get how that works. Now obviously I know bisexuality exists, but what about those of you who sit on the higher side of the Kinsey scale. I get why you may not come out, trust me... But how do you keep it up (metaphorically and literally)? Sorry if this is offensive, I'm just curious.