My mom

Communication is key. Have you spoken with your mom about your sexuality in the past? Sit down with her and explain to her that yes, you are gay, but that there isn't anything wrong with that and that her support is something that you could really use right now. Hatred and anger aren't going to help, you have to be willing to talk to your mom and make an effort. Hopefully she'll be receptive and accept your sexuality.

 

I know how you feel. My mother said she had suspicions when I told her. What I think you should do is just tell the truth, but if you let it show your pissed at her then it will all go downhill. Tell her the truth about your sexuality, but only if your ready. If your not, it's perfectly fine to say that. Say "mom I'm really not ready to talk about it right now. but when I am I'll tell you." Also point out that, if it bothers you (because it bothers me when my mom does), that you want your privacy.
I hope I helped (*hug*)

 

Shit that would suck I would be pretty freaked out if my mom looked through my phone

 

I must agree with Chip. If you believe that statement was true, you need to talk to a guidance counselor. And, it's pretty obvious your mom knows at this point, and so, really you should talk to her about it. And, at 13, I'd be more concerned if your mom wasn't checking up on you. Although this site is set up in a way to keep you safe, there are plenty of other places on the net that don't have such precautions.

Note that generally counselors are required to keep things confidential unless you allow them to share information, or it is something they are required to report. Usually the things they are required to report are limited to child abuse and suicidal thoughts, though this can vary from area to area.

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I just saw your comment about not being comfortable with your counselor. Is there another counselor at your school? At 13, it may be difficult to access other mental health resources without your parents involvement.... I'm guessing you are in Jr. High, based on your age. Is your school on the same campus as another school, such as a High School? If so, if you ask in the office, you might be able to get a hall pass to go and talk to a counselor over there on your lunch hour...

 

One other thought, if you aren't comfortable talking to the counselors at all, does your local police department have a resource officer at your school? They won't have the confidentiality requirements that a counselor would have, but they are there primarily to help the students. They might be able to point you to another place to get the help you need. An advantage of talking to them would be they are familiar with the services available in your area.

 

Best option would be to check with the office at your school. Most schools the rule is no leaving the school WITHOUT PERMISSION during school hours. Talking to a counselor is something they are more likely to give permission for. The main office would generally know when and how you could find the resource officer. Since you said the resource officer goes to different schools, and isn't around too long, I presume this is a smaller school. This can be somewhat of a benefit and a drawback. As a smaller school, their individual resources may be somewhat limited, however many times, smaller schools will work together, and have programs that students from one participating school may engage in at another school. This is done for the benefit of all the students, and allows the schools to collectively provide a better experience, and better service to the students. You might be able to reach out to a resource at another of those schools. These services are frequently arranged by a school district, or group of school districts. In Michigan, these groups of school districts are called an Intermediate School District, and they generally follow county lines (not an exact match to the county lines, as the school districts here may cross county lines).

If you are still insistent about not going through resources at school, you can try looking in your local phone book's white pages, government section for your local mental health authority. It's exact name may vary, and it might be a part of the health department. If you call them, they MIGHT be able to guide you to local resources that can help you. They might not be able to do too much without parental involvement, though due to your age.

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Check with your school's main office. From other posts you've made in this thread, the counselor might not be full time in your school, and they would be able to tell you the schedule of when and where to see him or her.

 

Both of my parents asked and eventually I just told, I've been a lot happier, if she doesn't except it just go talk to so,eons. We are here for you so don't worry.

 

If u ask them not to tell sometimes they don't but it just depends. You could say you no longer have those thoughts and they might not tell. It just depends though. Good luck!!!