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How old we're you when you discovered your attraction to the same sex?

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  1. TinyBee

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    I was just wondering.. My sisters friend knows i am Bi, and she too is Bisexual actually. And she said that "she was happy for me for discovering who i am at such a young age." So, I'm assuming I'm pretty young... Or maybe some people know they're attracted to the same sex early but don't come out of the closets until later, which is very likely.



    So, main point of this thread: how old were you when you discovered you were attracted to the same sex? :slight_smile:
     
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    About 5 or 6..
     
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    I was extremely young, probably 4 or 5 at most. I didn't perceive it as attraction back then of course, more just fascination... I liked to look. It made me feel good.

    I think I was 12 when I had my first crush on a guy (not serious feelings, just fun kiddy stuff) but didn't properly acknowledge it as a crush at the time since I was still quite happily telling myself that I was straight.

    I must have been 15-16 when I could no longer deny my feelings for guys and so came to the conclusion that I was bi. Then 17-18 when I realised that I feel nothing towards girls.
     
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    I don't remember exactly somewhere around 8-9th grade so 15ish?
    The problem is I was in denial and never really accepted it until a couple years ago.
     
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    Well when I was 13 I started having attractions but I kept denying and thought my mind was playing tricks with myself.
    Only in the beginning of July this year, have i really accepted myself for who I am.
     
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    I was 13 when the bells started ringing and 17 when I couldn't deny it anymore.
     
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    Hard to say exactly but probably around 13... finally accepted it at 17 as not being a phase (funny, previous poster from me said about the same).
     
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    Very vague inklings when I was 18.
    First true indications when I was 20.
    Finished coming out when I was 22.

    Lex
     
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    Probably around 12, vague inklings...kind of revealed this to others at around 13, was made fun of, and quickly shut that down...until my forties, when it just became too much to hold back.
     
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    I was definitely fascinated by the sight of nakad adult men changing for the pool when I was8 or 9, although I wouldn't say it was an "attraction" at that time. But definitely by age 11 or 12, when we started showering after gym class, I was feeling something, although I discovered pretty quickly that it wasn't something that was shared by the other guys and shut it down as best as I could. I had several major crushes in high school and college, and ended up rooming with one of them for nearly 3 years. I suspected he was gay (he was), but his complete lack of any interest in me whatsoever was basically the last lame excuse I needed to tell myself I would never have a future with a guy, and pull the closet door shut behind me. Pretty stupid generalization, but I just didn't know any better.
     
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    Early attractions - 11-12
    Denying those attractions - 13-17
    Accepted it wasn't a phase - 18-19

    Now I'm 22 only out to 1 person
     
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    About 22 officially, but 15 I suspected. Kissing girls was icky.
     
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    Wow a bunch of people are saying like in their elementary years. I remember knowing about gays since kindergarden and I was never homophobic. but before I came out my friends on and offline all obsessed over "yaoi" and "yuri" and I didn't hate on them being gay but I never really shipped any of them. And I realize now that was because I was in denial. So I've always known but have been in denile.

    I came out to myself right before my 13th birthday and I came out to everyone halfway being through 13
     
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    For the first time, I questioned when I was like... 7, because I had a crush on my female best friend.
    More seriously, at 14, when a crushed on another female friend.
    And this year, I also experienced sexual attraction towards girls, so I made it official. :lol:
     
  19. I realized I was attracted to girls when I was twelve, but thought I was bisexual until this year. It took ten more years to realize that I'm exclusively attracted to women.
     
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    My earliest memory is about six. I started looking at male porn at twelve, which didn't last long after being caught by my parents. In high school, I was attracted to anyone in football gear or a singlet. Eighteen, I realized I was gay, and I came out later on that year.