Do you see any red flags in my dating site profile?

Looks pretty good to me. I'd probably send you a message if I came across that (assuming I liked your picture cause on dating sites I tend to be a big shallow jerk.. lol). Documentaries, george carlin, sci-fi, arthur c clarke are all big awesome plusses in my book.

Good luck dude! I've met some cool people online and I'm sure you will too.

Though it sounds like you live in a smaller city or town, so don't get too discouraged if you don't find anyone quickly. There's a reason all of us gays tend to migrate to the big cities - more progressive attitudes, and so that we can find each other, and have some goddamn choices in the dating pool!

Have fun.

 

Seems nice, an interesting average guy who's open for a conversation. Although on dating sites it's all about your picture, and that's why I dislike them--'

 

I did just think of a little constructive criticism.. perhaps try to add some humor? i think i'm always more likely to message someone who seems like a funny and/or happy person. get a picture where you are smiling, and maybe put a little more personality into the profile. All the stuff you mention is awesome and there are lots of people who will share your interests, but adding a dash or two more of personality might help out.

not that i'm a master at dating site profiles.. lol. i constantly change mine around trying different tactics when i'm active on sites like that.

also, don't be afraid to try the 'hook-up' apps like ******, ****, etc.. (edit: forgot those app names are censored on here, but i'm sure you know what i mean...) chip made a good point that there are lots of people on dating sites just looking to hook up, but in my personal experience, the opposite is also true - there are people on hook-up apps looking for dates! or at least, some of the same people who want to hook up are also totally down to go on a date instead. just cause someone is looking for one doesn't preclude the other. plus, sometimes an awesome relationship can start with a hook-up, so don't necessarily rule that out either (dunno if you did but just in case.. lol)

 

I guess everyone has different experiences. I know a couple and have seen many people mention in online discussions that they met their long term partner through a hook up app. I remember being struck by how many people in a gay subreddit discussion on 'how they met their man' that I was following said that their long term thing started from a hook up app. It's just a convenient way to meet gay people who live near you.

I really disagree with this (what I perceive to be) cynical attitude that everyone on those things has some hidden 'agenda' to have sex because they are incapable of a relationship. I think most people who look for hookups are also completely open to having relationships. Most people are not that one dimensional. Wanting to hookup usually doesn't mean you are some damaged soul who can't form deep connections with people. I've been on more dates with guys who had no interest in hooking up on the first meeting through hook up apps (probably about 5) than I've had hookups ( 2 ), because that's what I went on there looking for. It's pretty easy to sort through the people who ONLY want sex. If they send you a picture of their penis or tell you exactly which sex acts they wanna do within the first few minutes of talking - they are probably only looking for sex. Plus, if you make it 100% clear you will not sleep with someone on the first date, anyone who's just looking for sex is going to skip your profile fast because there are tons of other guys on there willing to jump into bed with them.

But yeah TechnoBoy, hookups are scary, I agree! It's why I don't do it too often. Awkward. Too high of a chance of the chemistry being off. Awkward. Sometimes really sexy. Sometimes not. Sex with someone you are stoked about and dating is way better.