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I would like to help but I don't understand what help you are asking for exactly..

 

Welp, that sucks. I guess you shouldn't keep porn on your phone. :/ And learn to delete your texts once they start getting too full.

It's too bad they feel the need to ban you from things rather than give you "the talk" but their hearts are in the right place. Even if you lose EC as a bookmark, it is pretty easy to find.

 

Don't panic! Does she definitely know it's porn? Try telling her that you'd remembered some private text messages you didn't want her to see, or that somebody else got into your phone and changed a few of the settings or something. These things can usually be worked out! If she definitely saw then just try talking to her about it reasonably - the reason she's angry is because she doesn't understand, just try to calm her down and get her to see things from your point of view.

 

How about nothing? Unless she asks, I'd probably not bring it up.

If she knows about it, then nothing you can say to undo that. Just take some deep breaths and realize it's not the end of the world. Embarrassing as hell.. yes. But unless she starts abusing you over it, then try to forget about it for now.

I can't speak for how she's feeling but she's probably confused by finding what she found and is stressed out about it. That's just my guess though.

EDIT: Oh, right.. you grabbed the phone and ran. Ahem... well I'm not sure in that case. Maybe just admit you went to a porn site once and you suddenly remembered and was worried about her seeing it. Some times honesty is the best policy. It's a believable story and it's the truth. Unless she's the type to really be hateful for it... I dunno then.

 

Well if you do intend to come out to her, you can reinforce the idea that it isn't a lack of trust; it's a lack of being ready. Whenever you do tell her she can only forgive you.

Personally I'd prefer to have my parents see an LGBT support forum than in-your-face porn, so there's that option hehe.

 

I agree. There might be a few difficulties after this incident but if you are not ready to tell her yet, which i can understand given your still unsure yourself, then that's fine. She's aware your hiding something from her but as long as you assure her its not something illegal or dangerous (which its not assuming she is not homophobic) she will hopefully come to the conclusion that you'll tell her when your ready.
however if she wont let it go and you still don't want to mention your questioning sexuality to her then fess up to the porn, after all that parts true. sure you might be grounded and without internet for awhile not to mention you'll have to rebuild her trust but at least then she has something she can understand you hiding.
hope all goes well:icon_wink

 

If you aren't sure of your sexuality yet, just tell her that. That's not coming out per say... say, more like... opening the door a crack and peaking out.

Tell her you go to an information site about questioning LGBT youths or something. It's not a complete lie since you DO go to one where that goes on, that's just not what you were hiding. That way you can clear the air somewhat about what it was you were hiding from her.

When I was your age, I didn't have access to the wonderful resources that are out there online. Nor did I even have porn to look at! But I knew I was attracted to other boys.

I understood it to be something no one wanted to be. People hate, beat and kill you for it, it's a "sin and you go to hell for" (now I'm nonreligious) you could get AIDs, etc. That was my view of homosexuality since I had no other examples to go by.

I just denied it until I was 17 once I finally had internet access and started reading up about it. But I knew I was gay long before that.... I just kept saying it was a phase because I didn't want it to be true.

I came out at 18 all stressed out and my mom was fine with it. I stressed about it for 5 years (seemed like a lot longer!!) for nothing!