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Whats the point

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by RawringTiger, Sep 14, 2013.

  1. RawringTiger

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    I just told my 21 year old brother and 15 year old im sister these are there reponses

    Brother: Your not my little brother anymore your just a gay waste of space

    Sister: Don't talk to me im glad you have your own place i dont want to look at your face u horrible gay

    I burst it into tears and i just dont want to talk to anyone i feel like cutting myself off from the world
     
  2. Chip

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    Remember the 5 stages of grief (denial-anger-bargaining-grief-acceptace) and give them time. You almost certainly took time to understand and accept it, and it's going to take them some time to process and accept it as well.

    It's pretty common for siblings to first respond with anger, so I seriously doubt this will be their long-term response. I'm sure it's hard for you right now, but I guarantee they're feeling like shit too. I think if you give it a couple of weeks, you'll be surprised.
     
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    You have a good relationship with them prior to this?
     
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    First, well done for telling them - that can't have been easy.

    Second, I can understand you would feel crushed by their reaction. Whereas all your hopes I am sure were for a hug and "it makes no difference to me - I'll always love you" sort of thing.

    The fact is... 15 and 21 year olds can be fairly immature and if they were caught off guard, in the heat of the moment, they spoke without thinking. I am sure they will regret this, and soon come round.

    Do you have a parent who can help mediate this situation also???
     
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    *sigh*

    (*hug*) How have your parents taken the news?
     
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    They probably just spoke out of shock. Give them an hour or 2 and they will probably feel terrible about what they said
     
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    Depending on the depth of their gay hate, it might take more time. But soon enough they'll realize that they only have one family, and mistreating them like they have to you will give them regret later.
     
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    Meh half and half

    ---------- Post added 14th Sep 2013 at 11:35 PM ----------

    Well i told my mum a few days ago and she didn't mind
    i dont talk to my dad and if i did he would kill me he's the biggest homophobe i know