I know this is an age-old question, but here's my situation anyway. The girl in question confuses me. I have always had a difficult time telling queer people who look "straight", so to speak, apart. But I don't know, this girl just has all the stereotypical signs- looking at girls a certain way, touching them, short fingernails etc. I was pretty much 90% sure she was gay, which sounds like a lot, but really, I always feel a really strong gay vibe around her that I don't around straight people. So it's not just the stereotypical things, it's her presence- I don't really know how to put it into words, I guess this is what people call gaydar. So yeah, I was basically completely convinced that this girl was gay. However, in one conversation, she brought up an ex, who was a guy. She just briefly mentioned him because he was crucial to the story, but it basically made me lose all hope. It's not a big deal, she's just a close acquaintance I've known for not too long, so it's not like I'm in love with her or something. I'd just like to know whether there is a sure-fire way to tell if a girl is interested in girls, and whether I was right in jumping to the conclusion that she is straight. Thanks!
Gosh, I'm almost in the same position. My gaydar is over 9000. Only difference is that she's never mentioned any ex's. I'm bookmarking this. :lol:
That is so creepy... that is bloomin close to the situation I'm in... don't suppose you work with her do you? Its a horrible feeling trying to work out whether someone is straight/gay etc... in my situation its driving me bonkers!!!
Tell me about it... You know how in common situations you get mix signals from someone you like? Imagine having to dig deep into those signals and at the same time find out if they're lesbian, gay, or bisexual... :bang: I think it's harder for women than men, because men typically wouldn't show any sign since society judges them. Though even straight women are affectionate toward each other, so it makes it twice as hard.
Exactly!!! The woman I like touches my arms and my hips all the time... and when she walks next to me walks so that our arms are touching and I cant tell if she is flirting or what!!! Nightmare!
Haha! Oh dear, I guess we have no choice but to bring up something similar to the subject, see what they think... :lol: I really hate that, honestly. The girl I like would just stare at me often in some days, and I find that when she's exhausted she rarely pays much attention which makes me lose hope, but I do just about the same thing since I can get shy and timid, however today she paid LOTS of attention, especially when I moved closer to her. :rolle: Major headache trying to put the puzzle pieces together... :eusa_doh:
Sounds to me like there is a good chance she likes you!! Staring is:badgrin: a good sign... I know I've caught myself doing it sometimes... haha
Haha well thanks for bringing my hopes up. :lol: I hope you're right. I can't tell about your situation, but it frustrates me when straight women (if she happens to be) act that way. :tantrum: ---------- Post added 18th Sep 2013 at 03:35 PM ---------- Eh, seems like this isn't only your thread then. :lol: Oh, what a mess.
No idea if she is straight or not... she has never mentioned any ex's if any kind... maybe it would be easier if everyone went around wearing badges or something... :lol:
You will not know until you try. Based on my experience, I had two ex gfs, both of them were straight before but it happen that they bent over with me. My first was a straight girl and second became a bisexual. I didn't know they're into girls too, until I made a move. Nothing to lose.