so basically i have a mild sexual attraction to a straight friend of mine. he and i have watched porn together and have gotten slightly physical with each other but its always been under a wrestling/joking umbrella of method. i've always been pretty honest with him and a few weeks ago when we were 'wrestling' i noticed that he was well, hard. and hes been making this less of a thing to hide around me and we've even groped each other before for 'joking' reasons. but anyways, ive noticed that he was hard and pretty much tried to give him a blow job. he wasn't violent or even disrespectful when he denied me. in fact, he had a smile on his face and was kind of laughing. he said he didn't let me because i wanted to give him one but i still really want to give him one. like, badly. and normally i wouldn't even try but i feel like hes a bit curious with his sexuality so i feel like i got a shot. what do you guys think? what should i do?:bang:
I would say, respect the friend's wishes and be always ready to take a step back during the joking... And don't try to seduce him while he or both of you are a bit of drunk. He may agree, but then it could turn out ugly when he is sober.
What kind of porn are you watching together? Are you guys wrestling during/after watching porn? What was the reaction exactly when you tried to blow him? Did he get upset? Does he have sex with a lot of females or often?
Someone I know first explored things with men in this way. Watching porn with a friend was the way to go. Things progressed from jerking off with their pants on, to pants off, to no underwear and behind a dividing wall. But those didn't lead to anything more. All it achieved was a lot of pent-up arousal. So I would suggest that you let your friend know where you stand. Right now, he might be surprised to find himself so comfortable, and simply not think anything more of it. It would be bad to force yourself on him, and letting him know you're open to exploring might turn him off completely, but it's better than trying to manipulate him.
we watch almost anything really. obviously he likes his lesbian porn and i like gay but the other day we put on stuff that could appeal to both of us- group sex pretty much with both genders. and we didnt jerk off really, but he made it clear that he was aptly aroused. i touched his dick and vise versa (for a comparison of who was more turned on- he won by a landslide lol) and we didnt wrestle that day. but if we do, its typically before any kind of sexual talk or porn watching. and no he didnt get upset at all when i tried to give him a bj. in fact i texted him about it after a day or two and he said that to him; "its not gay unless you love another man". his reaction when i tried was very jokingly flirtatious. like, hed let me get close then pull away and laugh and did the same thing a couple times. i also made it clear that if he didnt want anything like that to happen, to just tell me because i dont wanna overstep any boundaries. he said "no man youre ok lol" and for as much as i know, hes a virgin. he has however messed around with a guy before when he was 14. he told me that in complete confidence. and hes admitted to having sex with me in a dream of his before. not that it necessarily means anything but im not imagin this stuff lol
Don't ruin his trust and faith in you by by not believing what he says. The guy loves you heaps but if he says no, then he means no.
How old is he? During high school age, I remember a lot of guys who would do a lot of jokingly bi-curious or homoerotic things, but they seemed to be just that--a joke, even if they did get aroused from it, they weren't making the leap over into saying they were gay or even bisexual. Assuming he is a good friend, I wouldn't want to mess that up by being too pushy. If he is anything but straight, it is his responsibility to make it known to you and not done so through jokes that you're not sure whether to take serious or not. In the meantime, I'd just leave the friendship just as it is Hope that helps
Stick to homosexuals and stop having gay straight fantasties. Try dating drag quuens or effeminate men and be more open to that possibilty
Yeah. I'd say he's pretty gay. He might just have a hard time accepting it. He has little to no history with females and you guys are touching each other's dicks. That's just not something straight guys do, especially in their early 20s.
yea like its just all odd. weve masturbated together and he said hes not bothered but yea im def just gonna let things flow. if it were to get to that then cool if not then thats good too. i know hes def straight and thats why id much rather play it safe and just keep him as a friend.
